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April 2004

Will Power

-Karthik Gurumurthy

People who possess self-discipline are able to set goals and work towards their achievement day after day, until they accomplish them. They are able to make sustained efforts. Anything worthwhile needs sustained effort to achieve, and without self-discipline there is no sustained effort.

Lack of will power makes it difficult to stick in one direction, when there are so many other pleasant things to do or choose, and which offer immediate gratification. This turns into a vicious circle, where one manifests no will power and self-discipline, but follows his/her every whim and desire.

By consciously choosing how to act and react, you acquire the power to control the outcome of your actions, and develop and strengthen the inner muscles of will power and self-discipline. Patience adds grace, respect and tolerance. It helps you make your life happier, more satisfying and successful. I believe you agree with me that life would be more pleasant, if more patience is exhibited.Will power can hold and rivet the attention in one place without swerving. As you strengthen your will power, you will find that your power of concentration increases too. Will power is one of the essential keys for the mastery of the mind and attaining good concentration ability.

Will power and self-discipline are two of the most important and useful inner powers in everyone’s life, and have always been considered as essential tools for success in all areas of life. Yet, in spite of this, only few take any steps to develop and strengthen them in a systematic way.

Will power and self-discipline are two of the main ingredients of every kind of success. Their possession will help you overcome weakness and dependability, gain strength and independence. You will be able make decisions and follow them. You will learn to pull your own strings, have control over your habits, behavior, actions and reactions, and gain the ability to manifest inner strength in every situation.

Will power is the inner strength to make a decision, take action, and handle and execute any aim or task, regardless of inner and outer resistance, discomfort or difficulty.


Take control

-Karthik Gurumurthy

A disciple and his teacher were walking through the forest. The disciple was disturbed by the fact that his mind was in constant unrest. He asked his teacher: "Why most people's minds are restless, and only a few possess a calm mind? What can one do to still the mind?"

The teacher looked at the disciple, smiled and said: "I will tell you a story. An elephant was standing and picking leaves from a tree. A small fly came, flying and buzzing near his ear. The elephant waved it away with his long ears. Then the fly came again, and the elephant waved it away once more".

This was repeated several times. Then the elephant asked the fly: "Why are you so restless and noisy? Why can't you stay for a while in one place?"

The fly answered: "I am attracted to whatever I see, hear or smell. My five senses pull me constantly in all directions and I cannot resist them. What is your secret? How can you stay so calm and still?"

The elephant stopped eating and said: "My five senses do not rule my attention. Whatever I do, I get immersed in it. Now that I am eating, I am completely immersed in eating. In this way I can enjoy my food and chew it better. I rule and control my attention, and not the other way around."

The disciple's eyes opened wide and a smile rose on his face. "I understand! If my five senses are in control of my mind and attention, then my mind is in constant unrest. If I am in charge of my five senses and attention, then my mind becomes calm".

"Yes, that's right", answered the teacher, " The mind is restless and goes wherever the attention is. Control your attention, and you control your mind".


Think Big

-Karthik Gurumurthy

Why limit our thinking? Why let circumstances dictate what we think? If we constantly think about our existing circumstances, we limit ourselves to experiencing these circumstances and situations over and over again in a variety of forms. We limit our life by not thinking beyond our circumferences. If we keep recreating in our minds the same kind of life, how can anything new happen?

To widen the circumference of your life, think bigger thoughts. To widen the scope of your life, dare to think beyond your immediate circumstances. Dare to think big. You can think beyond the boundaries of your reality.

If your life at the present is not to your liking, and you feel unhappy and limited, it need not be so. Open your mind to unlimited thinking and the impossible becomes possible.

Our thoughts arise from the Universal power, and if they are powerful enough, they materialize into reality. Our minds are one with the creative power of the Universal Mind, and therefore every thought that passes through our minds has the seed of creation in it.

Success through visualization manifests in all areas of life, from small things to big ones, from finding a parking place in a busy area, to becoming a president of a country.

Thoughts are the creators of your life and circumstances. By altering the thoughts in your mind, you can create a different reality. You can reshape, transform, improve and bring miracles into your life.

My favorite books in this area are Creative Visualization and Magic of Thinking Big.


Decision making

-Karthik Gurumurthy

Today morning,I was reading a book called "Magic of Believing" by Claude M. Bristol. Man this is an unbelievable book :-). Just grab it and read it as soon as possible. Just thought of sharing a paragraph which really struck me big time when I was reading it today.

"Are you afraid to take on responsibilities, afraid to make decisions, afraid to step out alone? Most people are - that's why there are so few leaders and so many followers. If you are confronted with a problem, the longer you put it off, the greater it becomes and more fearful you become of your ability to solve it. Therefore learn to make your decisions, because in not deciding you fail to act, and in failing to act you invite failure. Experience will soon teach you that once the decision is made, problems and troubles begin to disappear. Even though the decision you make may not be the best one, the mere deciding gives you strength and raises your morale. It's the fear of doing the wrong thing that attracts the wrong thing. Decide and act, and the chances are that your troubles will fade away into thin air - whether you make a mistake or not. All great men are men of quick decision which flows from their intuition, their accumulated knowledge, and previous experience. So learn to be quick in making decisons and audacious in your action."


Make a decision to change

-Karthik Gurumurthy

Each time you catch yourself thinking a negative thought, change it into a positive one.

If you catch yourself visualizing failure, switch to visualizing success.
If you hear yourself repeating negative words, switch to positive ones.
If you hear yourself saying, “I cannot”, say to yourself, “I can”.
Do you repeat useless and unnecessary negative words and phrases in your mind? Change them to positive ones.

Open your mind to positive attitude, happenings and events. Expect them and think about them, and soon you life will change for the better.

Decide that from today, from this very moment, you are leaving negative thinking behind, and starting on the way towards positive thinking and behavior. It is never too late. Soon your life will turn into a fascinating, wonderful journey.


Mind control

-Karthik Gurumurthy

Most people are enslaved by their thoughts. It does not occur to us that we can become free from their grasp. From the moment we wake up in the morning to the moment we fall asleep at night, this chatter of the mind continues incessantly. The habit of thinking is very deeply ingrained in the human race. Yet, this habit can be undone.To change or stop a habit we have to act consciously in the opposite direction. Whatever new skill we develop, we have to work at it until it turns into second nature, and becomes easy to perform. The same is with mind control.When one is really free from thoughts they become free from their mind as both are one and the same thing. One comes to see and understand the illusiveness of the mind. When the clouds hide the sun, the sun is still there, beyond the clouds. Our Essence, our inner Self, is always here. We only need to remove the sheets and covers that envelope it in order to experience peace and calmness. These sheets and covers are our thoughts, ideas, habits and beliefs. I do not mean to tell you that you have to stop using your mind. You need it in order carry on your life. I mean that it has to be under the control of the Self. It should be your servant to serve you right, and not your master..


What are you "thinking" right now?

-Karthik Gurumurthy

When you think, you are constantly making impressions on your subconscious mind. The heavier the impression, the more likely it will become your reality. The reason for this is that the subconscious mind doesnt know whether these impressions are real, or if they are not. So it adjusts your outer reality to match the impressions that are most dominantly being imprinted onto your mind.This process is called the imprinting process. You must watch what you are printing onto your subconscious all day long. You must be vigilant at all costs. Thoughts are things and will come to life if left unattended.

Ask yourself, do I want this thought to be my reality? If you don’t, simply become aware of the thought. Your awareness will stop the thought from being imprinted onto the subconscious. Most of the time, we attract by default rather than by deliberate choice. We just sort of go through our day, focusing on problems that need to be solved or on things that did not feel good nor seem right. In doing so, we are actually creating more problems, more of what does not feel good, and more of what does not seem right.

Think of yourself as a huge magnet; the kind that pulls metal to itself from afar off. It doesn't try to attract, it simply does attract. It is the same way for us. Whether or not we are trying to attract, we are doing so all the time. (Except when we are asleep.) And we attract the likeness of what we think about.If we are thinking about a lack of something, we are attracting more scarcity. If we are thinking about something we love, we are attracting more of what we love and enjoy.I know it sounds incredibly simple, and it is. When we are full of joy and gratitude, we tend to send out higher waves of positive energy, which magnetize back to us high frequency experiences like great opportunities, positive-minded people, healthy bodies, etc. Also, when we send out the energy of doubt, frustration and fear, we tend to attract challenging experiences that aren’t desirable.

All you really need to do in order to be successful and happy is to constantly emit high frequency vibrations which will attract your desires to you! It's important to know that we are each born with the natural power to create our own reality. We do so everyday! The real question is... are you creating what you WANT, or stuck in creating what you DON'T WANT? There always is another choice. It is up to you. After all, what you sow is what you reap.


Please don't take things personally

-Karthik Gurumurthy

When someone expresses his anger towards us, or speaks in a belittling way, what should we do? The answer lies in the incident of the Buddha.

Once Buddha went to beg with his disciple Ananda. When they approached a house for food, the lady of the house spoke harshly, “You lazy fellows! You are hale and hearty... why can’t you work for your food?” and chased them away. The disciple was enraged at the woman that she used such hostile words on his great Guru.

“Please permit me to teach that woman a solid lesson...” he pleaded with Buddha. But Buddha walked away in silence. A little later, Buddha handed over his water container to Ananda and went to take rest.

Having rested for a couple of hours they resumed their journey. On the way, Buddha glanced at the water container and asked, “Whose is this?” “It is yours, Master!” said Ananda. Buddha took it and looked at it once and returned it to Ananda saying, “No, I gifted it to you a little while ago...it is yours”.

At night, Buddha pointed to the same water container and asked once again, “Whose is this?” Now Ananda said, “Master, it is mine!”

Hearing this, Buddha said laughingly, “I asked you the same question earlier this evening and you said it was yours. Now you are saying, it is mine. How can the same container be yours and mine at the same time?”

Though Ananda was slightly confused, he replied calmly, “Master, you said that you have gifted this container to me and I accepted it.

Hence, I said that it was mine. Initially, when you gave it to me I did not consider it as mine, because, even though you had handed over the container to me, it was still yours!”

Buddha smiled at Ananda and said, “Similarly, I did not take the words the lady spoke harshly as mine; I did not accept them. So, even though the words were spoken at me, they still belong to the lady alone. That is the reason I said that there was no need to teach her a lesson.”

This advice from Buddha to his disciple expounds a very simple truth. If someone calls us ‘lazy’ we get affected by that word only when we take it to be ours. If we are clearly and firmly aware that we are not lazy, what that person says about us is just nonsense.

“Nonsense” would never affect us. In fact, we would not pay any heed to a person who speaks nonsense!

If someone calls me you are lazy and I am deeply affected, it only reflects on my true nature of being lazy. The quality in me is pointed out by others. This is the root cause for getting affected.

This gives rise to blood pressure and tension. Now let us assume that a person is indeed very lazy. Would it be possible for him to change? Of course, there would be a possibility!

You may feel lazy... lethargic and lose interest in work. But for heaven’s sake do not label yourself “lazy” or “good-for-nothing.”

If you do that, you will become your own worst enemy, and prevent yourself from becoming successful.


Self Esteem

-Karthik Gurumurthy

How can we create the life we have always dreamed of?

The way to create the life we have always dreamed of is simple. One must first raise the level of their self esteem, our own self image to a higher level. We only get what we think we deserve.

We will always project out into the world a reflection of what we think of ourself. It is always a matter of what we believe we are worth.

When we have a high self esteem, we will always reach for the stars because we will know that we deserve the very best that the universe has to offer.


You can be or do anything

-Karthik Gurumurthy

Believe that you can, and you will.

Imagine yourself to be the type of person you want to be and then be it. You may have to let go of some bad habits and develop some more positive ones but don't give up-for it is only in trying and persisting that dreams come true.

Expect changes to occur and realize the power to make those changes come from within you. Your thoughts and actions, the way you spend your time, your choices and decisions determine who are and who will become.

You are capable and worthy of being and doing anything. You just need the discipline and determination to see it through. It won't come instantly and you may backslide from time to time, but don't let that deter you. Never give up.

Life is an ever-changing process and nothing is final. Therefore, each moment and every new day is a chance to a new beginning. May all your wishes and dreams come true. They will...if you believe in yourself.


Make a difference

-Karthik Gurumurthy

A man was walking down the beach at sunset. As, he walked along, he saw another man in the distance. He noticed this man kept leaning down, picking up something and throwing it out into the water, again and again. As, he approached even closer, he noticed that the man was picking up starfish that had been washed up on the beach. He was throwing them back into the water, one by one.

Puzzled, he approached the man and said, "Good Evening. I was wondering what you are doing."

"I'm throwing these starfish back into the ocean. You see, it's low tide and all these starfish have been washed up onto the shore. If, I don't throw them back into the ocean, they'll die up here from lack of oxygen."

"But, there must be thousands of starfish on this beach. You can't possible get to all of them. And, don't you realize this is probably happening on hundreds of beaches all up and down this coast. Can't you see that you can't possibly make a difference?"

The man bent down and picked up yet another starfish, and threw it back into the ocean. With a smile he replied, "Made a difference to that one !!!"

Just remember, no matter how small the deed it really does makes a difference. Make a difference!!


Good Habits

-Karthik Gurumurthy

Courtesy, happiness and enthusiasm are all good habits. You can literally force yourself to be courteous, happy and enthusiastic with every person you meet. After you have forced yourself to be so for a short period of time, the habit takes over.

Good habits are hard to acquire but easy to live with. Bad habits are easy to acquire but hard to live with. We build our character from the bricks of habit we pile up day by day.


Increase your Goodness Quotient

-Karthik Gurumurthy

Here are a few simple ideas to help you continue to raise your “Goodness Quotient”:

1. Be the most polite person that you know.

2. Be honest to a fault.

3. Deeply commit yourself to being a world-class listener.

4. Send handwritten thank you notes on a regular basis.

5. Seek out opportunities to do random acts of kindness.

6. Commit yourself to being the most positive and passionate person that you know.

7. Be impeccable with your punctuality.


Don't compare

-Karthik Gurumurthy

I do notice lot of people get upset by comparing their weaknesses with other people's strengths. It is not a wise thing to do. God has given all of us with unique talents and abilities and each one has a God's gift which has to be realized by the individuals themselves.

Let me relate a story from Buddhism. Crowds used to come flocking to see a monk, from morning till night. This became intolerable for the commander of the army. One day he went to the monk and asked, “I am the commander of this country. I have thousands of soldiers under my command. But you, almost like a beggar, get more respect and regard than I do! How is it possible? I feel bad and jealous looking at you”.

The monk led him out of his hermitage. He pointed to the moon and asked him, “What is that?” The Samurai assertively said, “The moon.” The monk then pointed out to the rose in the garden and asked, “What is this?” The Samurai said, “A rose”! “Does this rose compare itself to the moon and say, ‘Oh, I am not white and bright like you? Does the Moon ask the rose and say, ‘Why am I not colorful like you?’ The rose possesses one kind of beauty, while the moon is pleasant in another way,” the monk explained. Even before the monk finished, the Samurai understood.

He begged pardon of the monk and left in peace. He realized that each of us is unique. We should rejoice in our uniqueness. Comparing our lives to others’ blinds us from seeing wonderful happenings in our own lives.


Priorities

-Karthik Gurumurthy

When things in your life seem almost too much to handle, when 24 hours in a day are not enough, remember the mayonnaise jar and the 2 cups of coffee... A professor stood before his philosophy class and had some items in front of him. When the class began, wordlessly, he picked up a very large and empty mayonnaise jar and proceeded to fill it with golf balls. He then asked the students if the jar was full. They agreed that it was. The professor then picked up a box of pebbles and poured them into the jar. He shook the jar lightly. The pebbles rolled into the open areas between the golf balls. He then asked the students again if the jar was full. They agreed it was.

The professor next picked up a box of sand and poured it into the jar. Of course, the sand filled up everything else. He asked once more if the jar was full. The students responded with a unanimous "yes." The professor then produced two cups of coffee from under the table and poured the entire contents into the jar, effectively filling the empty space between the sand. The students laughed.

"Now," said the professor, as the laughter subsided, "I want you to recognize that this jar represents your life. The golf balls are the important things-your God, family, your children, your health, your friends, and your favorite passions -- things that if everything else was lost and only they remained, your life would still be full. The pebbles are the other things that matter like your job, your house, and your car. The sand is everything else -- the small stuff. "If you put the sand into the jar first, " he continued, "there is no room for the pebbles or the golf balls. The same goes for life.

If you spend all your time and energy on the small stuff, you will never have room for the things that are important to you. Pay attention to the things that are critical to your happiness. Play with your children. Take time to get medical checkups. Take your partner out to dinner. Play another 18. There will always be time to clean the house and fix the disposal." Take care of the golf balls first -- the things that really matter. Set your priorities. The rest is just sand." One of the students raised her hand and inquired what the coffee represented. The professor smiled. "I'm glad you asked. It just goes to show you that no matter how full your life may seem, there's always room for a couple of cups of coffee with a friend."


The 21 Laws of Irrefutable Leadership- Notes

-Karthik Gurumurthy

I am a big fan of Dr. John C. Maxwell's books. I just finished reading one of his greatest works. I am sharing what I got out of the reading.

Simply stated, Leadership = Influence. Times change, technology marches on, knowledge increases, cultures vary from region to region, but the principles of leadership remain. They are “irrefutable.” I invite you to keep these handy and ask yourself daily how to be a better influencer based on these guidelines.

You CAN grow your leadership skills. Master even one of these, and you will grow as a leader.

The 21 Laws

1. The Law of the Lid

Any organization is limited in its growth by the growth of the leader. If the leader has capacity and is growing, the organization will follow. If the leader is limited and not growing, the organization will stagnate. People will only follow leaders greater than themselves. That’s how leaders grow. Is your organization “capped?”

2. The Law of Influence

Leadership is Influence. The author points out a story about how the Royal Family of England with all of its circumstance was unable to garner the attention that Princess Diana seemed to bask in naturally. She connected with the people. Having once been a kindergarten teacher, she obviously cared for the people and nurtured the masses as much as was in her power. She built relationships with politicians and heads of state and was a catalyst/spokesperson for fundraising on a number of humanitarian causes. AIDS research and leprosy were notable causes she heralded. She met with members of the Clinton administration to gain support for the Oslo conference banning land mines and put the issue on the world agenda. She lost her title, but her influence continued on while the royal family declined. Her funeral services were broadcast on television and the BBC radio and were translated into 44 languages to an audience of 2,500,000,000 people. No one really refers to her as a leader, yet that’s what she ultimately was.

The myths of leadership are Management, Entrepreneurialism, Knowledge, Pioneerism, and Position, but it’s really about influence. If you think you are a leader, yet no one is following you, you are merely out for a walk. Leadership is Influence.

3. The Law of Process

Leadership growth happens daily, not in a day. It’s a lot like long-term investment. If you continually invest in leadership, your skills will continue to increase. Build on the previous day/week/year’s progress.

The phases of leadership go as follows: 1) I don’t know what I don’t know; 2) I know what I don’t know; 3) I grow and know and it starts to show; and 4) I simply go because of what I know. You may not see progress tomorrow, but you will see progress as time goes on. After 20 years of investing, people will ask you how you became such a great leader. It’s a daily process of learning and practicing these laws.

4. The Law of Navigation

Leaders chart the course, managers steer the ship. The author points to the case study of the two adventure teams of Roald Amundsen and Robert Falcon Scott. Both had credentials, resources, and rugged teams but the planning and foresight of Roald Amundsen ensured he would meet his goals and preserve the safety of his team. He planned it, foresaw the dangers, designed a simple and robust plan, and executed it. Scott, on the other hand, failed to foresee the difficulties involved, over-engineered a complicated plan involving unsuitable machinery that could not handle the cold, and burdened his team with the task of hauling all of the cargo when systems broke down. The re-supply stations did not have enough stock to sustain them, they ran low on fuel, and ended up reaching their goal a miserable month late. The trip back was more horrifying. The last of them died with Scott 150 miles from their base camp, unable to go on.

The leader needs to research, plan, and consider risks, others’ experiences, wise counsel, and knowledge available in research. Exposing your team to the perils of failure is not excusable if you have failed to navigate with diligence. Do you anticipate what can go wrong? Do you leave things to chance? Do you get wise counsel? Good leaders do.

5. The Law of E.F. Hutton

Influential leaders have a built-in audience. People want to hear what they have to say. In many circumstances, it is not the “leader” to whom people are paying attention, but to another person who commands the respect of the group. We see this in board rooms, offices, factories, and shipping docks.

It is imperative that you gain control of things by managing the leaders under you in order to set the tone and culture of your organization or business. But you can’t start unless you realize this law is in effect.

The key factors that create this kind of respect are Character, Relationships, Knowledge, Intuition, Experience, Past Success, and Ability. It’s all about respect for the speaker. Remember the point, Leadership = Influence? Lose respect, lose influence, lose leadership. Simple.

6. The Law of Solid Ground

Before springing difficult news on your followers, consider their ability to trust you and your judgments regarding the issue. Most followers need to be walked through big decisions prior to hearing news. Gather the key leaders, cast the vision, answer questions, guide them through, get their ideas and buy-in. The reassurance that comes from allowing the followers to process with you can be the difference between success and failure. Be careful not to create a reason not to trust.

Character makes trust possible. It communicates to the follower a basis for trust. What is the history between you and your followers? Do you run roughshod over them? Do they get a say? Do you look out for #1? Do you apologize when you make mistakes? Have you built an “account” with their trust for them to draw from? Deplete that account and you’re done. Make lots of deposits. You’ll always be on “Solid Ground.”

7. The Law of Respect

No matter what your circumstances, you can increase your leadership potential. There are many stories of leaders of humble circumstances being followed by high-level people because of their leadership collateral: Harriet Tubman, Mother Teresa, Mahatma Gandhi, Martin Luther King. This is no random accident. It is due to leadership. Leaders in the ranks seek out a leader to follow. Strong leadership is a tractor beam for leaders under you in your organization. Weak leadership causes strong leaders to seek leadership elsewhere. Ever wonder where your best leaders went? They may not be candid when they leave, but chances are they left to find a stronger leader. We can keep stronger leaders if we invest in our leadership growth and avoid damaging our equity by failing to exhibit character when it really counts.

8. The Law of Intuition

A good leader has good intuition. Good instincts keep a leader out of trouble. Great leaders see what others cannot, “around corners”. They can make changes or take steps with little warning or evidence. The best kind of intuition is INFORMED INTUITION. A leader’s intuition can lead him to failure as well as success, so information and experience are priceless in this regard. A leader armed with intuition and information will be a great decision maker, both agile and confident.

A good leader leads with “leadership bias.” He sees things through the lens of a leader. He reads the situation, the trends, their resources, their key people, and their own abilities. Intuition is not innate in all leaders. You either naturally see it or you can be nurtured to see it. Otherwise, you’ll never see it.

Sometimes a leader may have good information and bad intuition. This will lead him to danger. Others have good intuition and bad information. This will cause him to under- or over-estimate a situation. But good intuition and good information will certainly lead to success one decision at a time. Always back up the way you feel with OBJECTIVITY, and then go with your gut.

9. The Law of Magnetism

You don’t attract the leaders you want….you attract the leader you are. When you feel compelled to complain about the leaders under you, think again. Perhaps your leadership needs shoring up as well. Beware also of the one-sided teams. Staff to your weaknesses so you can remain in your strengths. Make sure your team has plenty of variety and people who can express their differing views without fear.

If you have strong leadership characteristics, you will attract people with strong leadership characteristics. The author told the story of the Dallas Cowboys, America’s Team. Tom Landry and Roger Staubach combined to exhibit so much leadership that the team was unstoppable. The ranks of the Cowboys were full of followers with great character. But once Jerry Jones took over, he appointed Barry Switzer to lead the team. The story includes arrests of teammates and even the coach for attempting to carry a handgun on an airplane. So it trickles downhill. Jerry Jones the maverick, who is known for going outside the acceptable rules and guidelines, has a team of players who follow suit. If you want strong players with great character, be a strong example.

10. The Law of Connection

“A leader touches a heart before he asks for a hand.” You cannot lead people who don’t connect with you. Once a leader has a trust connection with his followers, they will do almost anything for him. Until that connection is made, followers will balk.

Consider the Dole/Clinton presidential campaign. Bob Dole was uninspiring, dull, and cold. By contrast, Bill Clinton appeared on Arsenio wearing sunglasses and played the saxophone for the nation to see. He appeared to be warm and normal, like us.

A long time later, Bob Dole appeared on Saturday Night Live and humorous commercials after he had lost the campaign. He finally let his hair down some and people saw the person inside. Too late – Bill Clinton had won the battle of connection.

The leader should ALWAYS use MBWA or W4C (Management by Wandering Around or Walk the 4 Corners) as a tool to become more aware of employees and their problems. It allows them to connect with you. Once connected, they will follow you much more readily. At Southwest Airlines, Herb Kelleher set the tone and culture by connecting with the team, giving them all the impression he knew them personally!

11. The Law of the Inner Circle

Every leader’s potential is affected by the people he keeps closest. When you have the right staff and team, your potential SKYROCKETS. There is no such thing as a great leader who is a lone ranger. Ronald Reagan surrounded himself with the best leaders and advisors available.

In order to gain the best payback for your investment in your company, first invest in your inner circle team. Use the 80/20 rule. Your investment in your team will create 80% of the results you want to see. Grow their leadership, and you will grow your success. Never stop improving your inner circle.

12. The Law of Empowerment

Henry Ford was not willing to empower his company’s leaders or share credit and ideas with them. He was so stuck on the 1903 design Model T, he would not allow anyone to suggest improvements. A design team once surprised him with a prototype and he proceeded to tear its doors off and destroy the car with his own hands. By the time he reluctantly introduced an upgrade model A in 1931, he had lost his market position to others who had made huge technological innovations.

As Henry became more eccentric, he promoted his son Edsel. Without him, The Ford Motor Company never would have made it. But Edsel died prior to becoming the successor, so his son Henry II returned from the Navy to save the day. Facing all kinds of internal resistance from Henry’s undermining, Henry II finally managed to gain control, so the company could move forward. After 15 years of unprofitability, Henry II finally turned the company around. Until others were empowered, Henry Ford’s company was headed for failure.

Barriers to Change cited in this chapter are: Desire for Job Security, Resistance to Change, and Lack of Self Worth. You have to believe in your leaders. The best results will appear when you lift others up, giving them credit. Find strong leaders and empower them, even if they are stronger than you.

13. The Law of Reproduction

In an informal poll, the author gathered data from his conference attendees about what prompted them to become leaders. The results: 10% thought they were natural leaders, 5% became leaders in a crisis, and 85% credited another leader mentor for their inspiration. The point is, you can and need to reproduce your leadership in others. It takes a leader to raise up a leader.

One of the finest NFL coaches of all time was Bill Walsh, coach of the 3-time Superbowl Champion SF 49ers. Check out the great leaders who can be traced to the staff of Bill Walsh: Mike Holmgren, George Seifert, Bruce Coslett, Steve Mariucci, Mike Shanahan, Dennis Green, Ray Rhodes, Pete Carroll, Jeff Fisher, Jon Gruden. Incredible! Not only were his own results fantastic, but they were the precursor to the successes of many teams yet to come. There is a similar but longer lineup of 30 Fortune 500 CEO winners who had once been on the staff at G.E. under Jack Welch, names such as Harry Stonecipher of McDonnell Douglas/Boeing. We teach what we know, we reproduce what we are. The ONLY WAY you will be able to develop other leaders is to become a better leader yourself.

14. The Law of Buy-In

The story of Mahatma (Great Soul) Gandhi is a great example of leadership buy-in. In the years previous to Gandhi’s becoming the leader in India, the country was in turmoil and violence, rioting for independence from British rule. It was remarkable that he was able to sell his vision that “Nonviolence is the greatest force at the disposal of mankind. It is mightier than the mightiest weapon of destruction devised by the ingenuity of man.” Even in the aftermath of the Amritsar massacre in 1919, Gandhi called the people to stand. It was crazy and unheard of. But the nation had come to BUY IN to Gandhi as a leader, so they bought into his vision as well. He influenced the people to burn their foreign-made clothing and only wear homespun garments. After a slow and painful, but diligent, nonviolent battle, India gained home rule in 1947. People buy into the leader first, then the vision. Without leader credibility, the vision will die.

15. The Law of Victory

Leaders find a way for their teams to win. Good leaders are winners; they don’t accept defeat. They will use everything at their disposal to win. When they do lose, they examine their failures and use the learning to win next time. The book cites the contrasts between President Abraham Lincoln and Jefferson Davis, the President of the Confederacy during the Civil War. Lincoln surrounded himself with the greatest leaders and strategists in order to gain the most advantage. Davis failed to make ultimate victory his highest priority. He should have been thinking like a revolutionary, yet he was more of a bureaucrat and cared more about being right than winning a war. This impeded his ability to leverage the knowledge of his advisors for the best results.

There is another great example in this chapter of Winston Churchill and FDR. They teamed together to deny Hitler his goal and would not allow the mindset to exist that compromise was an option. There is the example of Herb Kelleher, who fought the major airlines’ legal attacks and monopolistic practices to crush him until finally 11 years after launching, he was allowed to put his first fleet in the air. He was unwilling to give up. Herb Kelleher had no alternative plan. Win.

16. The Law of Big Mo

Momentum is the leader’s best friend. Both positive and negative momentum are powerful in an organization. The book cites “Stand and Deliver,” the story of Jaime Escalante of Garfield HS. The school was a mess, and the leadership even encouraged “Gang Pride” as a way to placate students. Escalante was unable to do much, until the leader was replaced. The new leader quickly set boundaries for students and disciplinary standards and stopped the negative momentum.

The next fall Escalante started with a small group in his Calculus class. Of the 3,500 students at Garfield, he could only find 14 to enroll. He began preparing them for the College AP test in May. Over half the class dropped out for one reason or another and, by May, there were only 5. Only 2 of them passed the exam. But Escalante was not stopped. He knew he needed to build positive momentum, and this was his start. The next year 8 took the test, 6 passed. Then fourteen. Finally 18 students took the test and amazingly, after being accused of cheating, were retested and passed 100% both times! By 1983, the number was 31; 85 in 1987. Eventually 27% of all Mexican Americans in the US passing the test were from Garfield High. Momentum is key.

17. The Law of Priorities

Leaders understand that ACTIVITY is not necessarily ACCOMPLISHMENT. When John Maxwell’s organization was located in San Diego, he had an assistant tally up the time he spent traveling in airports and discovered that he spent 27 days annually making connections. So in order to use his time in better priority, he moved the organization headquarters to Atlanta, where Delta Airlines had its hub and saved much of that time flying direct for him and his staff. Stephen Covey said, “A leader is the one who climbs the tallest tree, surveys the entire situation and yells, ‘Wrong jungle!’”

Maxwell uses the 80/20 principle in everything he does. He spends 80% of his time with the top 10 staff members. The top 20% of your customers deliver 80% of your profits. 20% of your To Do list items will make 80% of the difference.

The 3R’s are Requirement, Return, and Reward. If it isn’t required that you do that duty, delegate it. Spend your time in activities that create the greatest return and delegate the rest. Things that you are passionate about that bring personal reward will energize you for your role.

Jack Welch decided to make all of his businesses achieve #1 or #2 in their markets or they would be divested. At that time, GE stock was worth $4 and the company value was $12 billion with 350 divisions. They sold off enough poor performers to amount to $10 billion, invested $18 billion in the winners, and made $17 billion in acquisitions. Afterwards, their stock split 4 times and traded at $80 per share. It became the most valuable company in the world at a value of $250 billion. Any questions?

18. The Law of Sacrifice

A leader must “Give Up to Go Up.” In the troubled times of the Chrysler Corporation, Lee Iacocca came in to save the day. He took a 50% haircut on his salary to take over and worked around the clock to turn Chrysler around. They lacked financial systems and controls; production and supply were out of control; quality was poor; and the team was fighting internally. Morale was dismal, and loyalty was the worst in the car industry. Needless to say, Chrysler was losing money badly. When oil prices soared and the stock fell to $8 per share, Iacocca kept on sacrificing.

He eventually went to the U.S. Government with his hat in his hand to ask for a bailout loan. He went against all he believed in to make the deal work. During committee hearings, all of the dirty laundry for the corporation and the whole team was exposed. It was very painful. Iacocca reduced his salary to $1 per year as an example for the others.

The loan went through and Chrysler bounced back. By 1982, they generated a record profit of $925 million, and by 1983 repaid the whole amount, all due to Iacocca’s willingness to sacrifice.

As you rise higher as a leader, you lose your right to insist upon perks. You have to give up to go up.

19. The Law of Timing

Knowing when to step up as a leader is as important as knowing what to do and where to go. The book used the example of Jimmy Carter, the soft–spoken, quiet Christian leader with a combined political experience of only one term as state senator and one term as governor when he ran for President. Virtually unknown to the rest of the nation, people were indifferent when the announcement was made. But while all of that would normally work against him, it was what exactly what the American people needed: someone they could trust…and the timing was right. He won decidedly.

The Law of Timing was just as UNKIND to Jimmy Carter over his term in office. Numerous foreign policy problems, the Iran hostage crisis and the blown attempt to rescue the captives, record high oil prices, record high inflation, mortgage rates approaching 20%, and the Soviet invasion of Afghanistan had shaken America’s confidence. In the next election, Carter was only able to garner 49 electoral votes to 489 for Ronald Reagan. It is a two-edged sword. Be careful; beware. Take the right actions at the right times. It is critical to pay close attention to the Law of Timing.

20. The Law of Explosive Growth

If you want to add growth, lead followers. If you want your growth to explode, lead leaders. Leaders who develop followers add growth. Leaders who lead leaders MULTIPLY. Leaders who lead leaders want to be successful. They focus on the strengths of their top 20% leaders.

They treat their leaders as individuals. They give power and responsibility away. They invest in others. They multiply. They impact people and organizations far beyond their own.

The author told the story about Indian pastor David Mohan. Maxwell had traveled to India to teach 2,000 leaders the principles in his book and met this pastor. Seven years earlier, Mohan had built his church to about 700 people, a respectable size for an Indian congregation. But after teaching his leaders the principles of leadership over that time, his church became the largest church in India. He did it by investing in his leaders and the principle took hold. There is no other way to grow your organization in this way. Not by fancy management methods, financial growth, sales, resources, consultants, analysis or the initiative of the month. You must invest in your leaders. It’s the fuel for Explosive Growth.

21. The Law of Legacy

A leader’s lasting value is measured by succession. What happens while you are there is important, but the real value of your effectiveness appears when you are gone from the organization. Can it thrive without you? It needs to.

The story of Roberto Goizueta of Coca Cola illustrates this Law. He once gave a speech to illustrate the size of the number 1 billion. “A billion minutes ago, Christianity emerged. A billion seconds ago, the Beatles appeared on Ed Sullivan. A billion Coca Colas ago, it was yesterday morning.” Phew! Goizueta was a fantastic leader. He was cruising his way towards leading the best corporation in the world. He was questioned about his retirement plans, but answered that he was having way too much fun to retire. But he was diagnosed with cancer and died six months later. The stock market did not panic at the announcement of his death. A Paine Webber analyst reported that he had “prepared the company for his not being there as well as any executive I’ve ever seen.” Goizueta had groomed Douglas Ivester for the role. A financial professional, he was named CFO shortly after joining Coke. Recognizing his talent, Goizueta sent him to Europe to gain operational experience and brought him back a year later to become President of Coca Cola USA and eventually CEO. Goizueta had done what few leaders do. He prepared his replacement. Legacy is created when a person puts his organization into the position to do great things without him. He will be measured by The Law of Legacy.

Conclusion

Leaders are born with more or less charisma and some seem more naturally equipped than others. But Jim Collin’s book “Good to Great” points out that HUMILITY is more important than any other factor for an effective leader. Humility can be learned. Trust can be built. Mistakes can be avoided. These Laws can be learned. You CAN become a great leader, but it will take a significant investment in yourself, in your leadership. If you are able to increase your skills according to these principles, you will increase your leadership and your organization accordingly. Leadership skills will help you accomplish your dream without leaving your potential “on the table.” Be all you can be…and take some others with you.


Self-Discipline

-Karthik Gurumurthy

Study anyone who has achieved a measure of greatness, from the CEOs and entrepreneurs who have built wildly successful businesses to the best mothers, fathers, teachers and poets and you will be studying discipline in motion. Discipline is the cornerstone of self-mastery. Self- discipline is a fundamental virtue to inner-power. Discipline is the source, the wellspring that lets you live the life that you deserve. You must strengthen your inner core if you are truly dedicated to manifesting your highest potential for personal and professional success. With discipline, you will possess the inner fire needed to focus on your primary goals and realize your dreams.

The Real Secret of Discipline

I define discipline as the virtue that gives you the courage and the inner resolve to do what you said you would do - when you said you would do it. Discipline is all about promise keeping. I am not talking only about those promises you have made to others such as your promise to your wife about the vacations that you will be taking hero or your promise to your boss that you will become a better worker, for example. I am also talking about the promises that you make to yourself; those small daily resolutions ranging from the promise to read thirty minutes a day to a personal commitment you have made to raise the standards of your work at the office.

Discipline means that you take time away from the little emergencies which seem to eat up your day to kindle the fire of self-mastery. Discipline means that you get up early to go for a run on a freezing winter's day because you made this one of your personal mastery milestones and you are dedicated to raising the level of your physical fitness. Discipline means that you refuse an invitation to go out to a party on Saturday night because you had planned to review your goals and refine your purpose statement and think deeply about where your personal, professional and spiritual life is going. Discipline is having the power to turn off the TV and go into your study to read some of those books that you know will truly improve your effectiveness. Discipline is having the bravery and the inner-strength to stop giving so much time to the unimportant things in your life and to start directing your energy to those high-impact activities which will truly make a measurable difference in the richness of your life.

Integrating the habit of discipline into your days takes effort, willpower and courage. Having the discipline to follow through on the life goals you have set for yourself and living the kind of life you have imagined in your mind's eye is a very brave way to live. It is a very noble way to live. It is also a very liberating way to live because you have become the master of your own life. You begin to take control of your destiny. It's the source of great enlightenment. You set your course and then you have the resolve to follow it. And this also leads to tremendous amounts of confidence because you realize that you alone are the influencer of your life and if you don't like what you see, you can change it. You shape your circumstances rather than letting them shape you. You become the master of your life rather than letting life master you.

Building Discipline

How do you build self-discipline? The principle can be stated in nine words: put off short term gratification for long term satisfaction. You build discipline by sacrificing what is easy to do for what is right to do. When you put off doing what is impulsive, those things that simply feel good in the moment but offer no long-term benefits and start doing what your heart tells you is good, you start to build discipline. When you do the things you don't like to do but know you should do, you build discipline. This is the seed of greatness. 

The top performers on the playing fields of business and life continuously raise their standards. They realize they are bound for glory and destined to actualize the full extent of their personal genius. So they have done their inner work and are focused on achieving personal excellence. They know that they are here for a life of meaning and action. Leaders have the wisdom to understand that self-mastery comes one day at a time. And the days slip into weeks. And the weeks into months. And a time comes when those small, daily improvements in their discipline levels have created extraordinary results in life quality.

3 Lessons For Creating Self Discipline

1. Finish What You Start

As a Professional with many competing demands on our time, it is essential that we, at all times, have the strength of will to follow the daily plan I have set for ourself and concentrate only on those pursuits which are central to my mission. To cultivate the kind of discipline required to be able to do this, a philosophy that I apply in my own life is to finish what I start. This simple practice is enormously effective because, in practicing it, you are no longer a slave to your weaker impulses which silently prod you to take the path of least resistance and quit before your goal is reached, no matter how small that goal may be. Instead, you are in full control of your self and use your inner power to accomplish worthy ends, whether this means completing a hot new book on creativity, learning a new language or growing a dynamic business.

2. Be Silent

The Buddhist monks have a favorite strategy to build willpower - one that has been used by many cultures over the years to build enormous amounts of inner-strength and resolve. It is the vow of silence. You might wonder how would staying quiet for days on end build willpower? It is because you are exerting force on your will. You are not giving into the impulse telling you to talk. You made a promise and set a goal that you would be silent for a few hours or maybe even a full day and then you had the courage to keep this promise. And this courage and capacity quickly spills over into every other areas of your life. Following through on this small goal builds your capacity to follow through on larger goals like managing your time more efficiently or building richer relationships or mastering your physical endowments. Speaking your goals is important..but having the resolve to be silent is equally important.

3. Get Up Early

Early rising is one of the key life habits of so many of the highly successful people I have studied from Ted Turner to Nelson Mandela. In my own life, I've now trained myself to get up before 6 am since I have found that rising at this time allows me the time I need to write peacefully and think deeply Without a doubt, it's one of the best things I do for myself. But I earned the rewards that I have received from getting up early. 

Above all else, however, the real key is to appreciate that discipline in your outer world comes from a disciplined inner-world. And a disciplined innerworld comes from thinking correct, inspiring, disciplined and enlightened thoughts. Your thoughts form your world.


Take responsibility

-Karthik Gurumurthy

You must take responsibility for where you are at this point in your life. Every decision you have ever made has brought you here.

When you were created, you were given choices, and those choices have moulded your life up until this point. Do not blame anyone else for your failures! Nor should you praise anyone for your successes. You should definitely have the attitude of gratitude to those people who had helped you along the way to attain your goals.

You have the power to move mountains. You also have the power to create hell for yourself. It has always been your choice, but most people blame others, or something outside of themselves.

Your life has been made up from billions of tiny little decisions. To reverse the process, you must start to change those tiny little decisions, and over time, baby step by baby step, you will learn to stand up on solid foundations. You will become solid as a rock. Unshakeable.

Start today. It is never too late.


90/10 principle

Discover the 90/10 Principle. It will change the way you manage your life.

This extract is written by Stephen R Covey, the Management Guru.

What is the 90/10 Principle?
10% of life is made up of what happens to you. 90% of life is decided by how you react. What does this mean?

We really have no control over 10% of what happens to us. We cannot stop the car from breaking down. The plane will be late arriving, which throws our whole schedule off. A driver may cut us off in traffic. We have no control over this 10%. The other 90% is different. You determine the other 90%.

How? By your reaction. You cannot control a red light,but you can control your reaction. Don't let people fool you; YOU can control how you react.

Let's use an example.
You are eating breakfast with your family. Your daughter knocks over a cup of coffee onto your business shirt. You have no control over what just what happened. What happens next will be determined by how you react. You curse. You harshly scold your daughter for knocking the cup over. She breaks down in tears. After scolding her, you turn to your spouse and
criticize her for placing the cup too close to the edge of the table. A short verbal battle follows. You storm upstairs and change your shirt. Back downstairs,you find your daughter has been too busy crying to finish breakfast and get ready for school. She misses the bus.

Your spouse must leave immediately for work. You rush to the car and drive your daughter to school. Because you are late, you drive 40 miles an hour in a 30 mph speed limit. After a 15-minute delay and paying fine,you arrive at school. Your daughter runs into the building without saying goodbye.

After arriving at the office 20 minutes late, you find you forgot your briefcase. Your day has started terribly. As it continues, it seems to get worse and worse. You look forward to coming home, When you arrive home, you find a small wedge in your relationship with your spouse and daughter.

Why? Because of how you reacted in the morning.

Why did you have a bad day?
A) Did the coffee cause it?
B) Did your daughter cause it?
C) Did the policeman cause it?
D) Did you cause it?
The answer is D.

You had no control over what happened with the coffee.How you reacted in those 5 seconds is what caused your bad day. Here is what could have and should have happened. Coffee splashes over you. Your daughter is about to cry. You gently say,” Its ok honey, you just need, to be more careful next time." Grabbing a towel you rush upstairs. After wearing a new shirt and with your briefcase, you come back down in time to look through the window and see your child getting on the bus. She turns and waves. You arrive 5 minutes early and cheerfully greet the staff. Your boss comments on how good the day you are having.

Notice the difference?

Two different scenarios. Both started the same. Both ended differently. Why? Because of how you REACTED. You really do not have any control over 10% of what happens. The other 90% was determined by your reaction.

Here are some ways to apply the 90/10 principle.
If someone says something negative about you, don't be a sponge (don't absorb). Let the attack roll off like water on glass. You don't have to let the negative comment affect you! React properly and it will not ruin your day. A wrong reaction could result in losing a friend, being fired, getting stressed out etc.

How do you react if someone cuts you off in traffic? Do you lose your temper? Pound on the steering wheel? (A friend of mine had the steering wheel fall off!) Do you curse? Does your blood pressure skyrocket? Do you try and bump them? WHO CARES if you arrive ten seconds later at work? Why let the cars ruin your drive? Remember the 90/10 principle, and do not worry about it.

You are told you lost your job. Why lose sleep and get irritated? It will work out. Use your worrying energy and time into finding another job. The plane is late; it is going to mangle your schedule for the day. Why take out your frustration on the flight attendant? She has no control over what is going on. Use your time to study, get to know the other passenger. Why get stressed out? It will just make things worse.

Now you know the 90/10 principle.

Apply it and you will be amazed at the results. You will lose nothing if you try it. The 90/10 principle is incredible. Very few know and apply this principle. The result? Millions of people are suffering from undeserved stress, trials, problems and heartache. There never seem to be a success in life. Bad days follow bad days. Terrible things seem to
be constantly happening. There is constant stress,lack of joy, and broken relationships. Worry consumes time.

Anger breaks friendships and life seems dreary and is not enjoyed to the fullest. Friends are lost. Life is a bore and often seems cruel. Does this describe you? If so, do not be discouraged. You can be different!

Understand and apply the 90/10 principle.


What are you focussing on?

-Karthik Gurumurthy

One of my friends I was speaking with wanted to share his concern for the upbringing of his children in America. How was he to keep them away from drugs, alcohol and glamor? He was terrified with all the news and media. He said “My life is miserable whenever I think of my children in this permissiveness. What should be my approach to the bringing up of my children?”

Often I question the very genesis of such an enquiry. When we operate out of fear, we transmit the energy of fear to our children; in a subtle way, of course. If we were to operate out of trust, we would transmit trust to our children.

We have to realize that our actions are born from our thoughts. Our thoughts are the products of our values, and values come from our own belief system. If we believe life is miserable, we attract misery; if we believe life is beautiful, we attract happiness. This is called the ‘Law of Attraction’.

We get what we focus on; so focus on the fact that good things will happen to our children. This is one of the strong variables, which would impact our children.

But the parent asks lovingly, “Why do children detest advice?”

The question is, are they really against advice or the way we administer it? Every parent should be sensitive to this aspect.

Reflect on this story: A money-minded son after having his lunch wrote a note to his mother that she owed him $25 and he gave a detailed account- $ 5 for cleaning the house, $ 5 for washing the dishes, $ 15 for mowing the lawn. The mother was shocked on reading the note. She however decided to educate her son.

In turn she kept a note on the dining table, which read- “Oh! Son, you owe me nothing.” My account runs like this:

$ 0 for cooking your food

$ 0 for washing your clothes

$ 0 for ironing them

$ 0 for cleaning your bathroom

$ 0 for taking you to the doctor

$ 0 for the present on your birthday

$ 0 for taking you to the school and bringing you back

Finally, dear son, you owe me nothing; because I love you.

The son read this note and was deeply touched.

Children are not against advice; but they are very sensitive to the way it is administered. The heart of education is the education of the heart.

“How can I learn to advise in this manner?” asks the parent.

Reflect on this: Have you observed birds building nests? They build in such a way that when it rains, not a drop of water falls in the nest.

How did the mother bird learn the art of such an engineering feat? It is said that when the mother bird is pregnant, intuitively this knowledge arises. Love for the offspring brings out this latent wisdom to build the nest.

Let your love guide you and not fear.

Love will show you the way.

My friend nods in affirmation that love is the supreme power. He further asked, “How to deal with children’s boredom despite the variety in entertainment through media?”

Reflect on this story:

A boy complained to his grandmother, “No one likes me at school and life is bitter. My teachers reprimand me, friends are better than me in sports, some friends are better than me in studies and I feel bitter about life”.

“Shall I make a cake for you?,” asked the grandmother.

“Good, I badly need to sweeten my life,” said the boy.

After some time, she gave him flour. “This is not cake, it is so bitter,” screamed the boy. Then she gave him little baking powder.Again the boy screamed, “This is not cake, it is so bitter.” Then she gave him an egg. “This is not cake, it is not tasty,” screamed the boy.

Then the grandmother lovingly told the boy, “Individually each one of them is not tasty but when put together; it becomes a cake”.

“In the same way,” she said, “Individually your experiences are bitter; but join them together with commitment and transformation. Add the sugar of your being and make it a cake. Life is like cooking, you should just make it.”


Use your mind to your advantage

-Karthik Gurumurthy

Like a magnet, your mind not only attracts, but also repels. If you do not believe you can get or accomplish something, then you repel it. Thoughts of incompetence, weakness, fear and inferiority create a repellent force. It is as if you are creating a wind that blows away and prevents certain things to reach you.

There are several ways to charge your mind and thoughts with magnetic power. Strong desire, concentration and faith are some of the important ingredients for infusing power into thoughts. Many activate the magnetic power of their mind unconsciously, without knowing what they are doing. When you know the rules, you will be able to activate the magnetic power of your mind consciously, positively and effectively.


Where is Happiness?

-Karthik Gurumurthy

A rich man searching for happiness, travelled to different countries. He was still not happy. He chased wine, women and other addictions... but his heart was devoid of happiness.

Someone told him that there was happiness in a life of renunciation. So, he decided to try that too. He packed all his wealth, the treasure stored in his house, all diamonds, precious stones and gold.

He took the bundle and placed it at the feet of a sage and said, ‘“ Guru! I am placing all my wealth at your feet! I don’t need them any more. I only seek peace of mind and happiness! Where is peace?” Saying thus, he fell at the feet of the Sage in total surrender.

The sage did not seem to heed his words at all. He hurriedly opened the bundle and checked the contents. It was full of dazzling diamonds, glittering gold. On viewing these, the Sage tied up the bundle and ran with it.

The rich man was extremely shocked. “Oh, no! I have surrendered my wealth to a cheat, a pseudo Godman! What a blunder!” he thought. His sadness turned into anger and he went behind the Sage in hot pursuit.

The Yogi was unable to run fast. He went into the forest, but finally reached the place from where he had started his run... under the tree. The rich man also reached the same place, panting hard. Before he could utter a word, the Sage said, “Hey, did you get scared that I would abscond with your wealth? Here, take it! I have no need for it... keep it for yourself!” and returned the bundle to him.

The rich man was very happy that he got back his ‘lost’ wealth. “Here is peace and happiness,” said the Sage. The Sage further added, “You see, all this wealth was with you even before you came here.

But you did not derive joy from them. It is the same wealth that is with you now... but you have found a great joy in your heart! So where did the happiness come from… from wealth or from within you?”

It is clear from the story that joy and happiness are not outside us. They are within us! If you unlock the doors to them, they will be all yours!


Be Thankful for what you have

-Karthik Gurumurthy

The secret to inner and outer abundance is to constantly give thanks for the blessings you have in your life, instead of focusing on what you don’t have. Always give thanks for what you have, even if it is so little, because you may find, that it is more than what a lot of others may have. Cultivate the feeling of being blessed, because this feeling will multiply and project itself outwards.


Sense of Values

  • No one will ever get out of this world alive.
  • Resolve therefore to maintain a sense of values.
  • Take care of yourself.
  • Good health is everyone's major source of wealth.
  • Without it, happiness is almost impossible.
  • Resolve to be cheerful and helpful.
  • People will repay you in kind.
  • Avoid angry,abrasive persons. They are generally vengeful.
  • Avoid zealots. They are generally humorless.
  • Resolve to listen more and to talk less.
  • No one ever learns anything by talking.
  • By chary of giving advice; Wise men don't need it. Fools won't heed it.
  • Resolve to be tender with the young, compassionate with the aged, sympathetic with the striving and tolerant of the weak and wrong- Sometime in life you will have been all of these.
  • Do not equate money with success-There are many successful money-makers who are miserable failures as human beings.
  • What counts most about success is how a man/woman achieves it. It is the process determines everything.

You are UNLIMITED

-Karthik Gurumurthy

I was browsing through this book "What are you really, What do you want" by SH. I just wanted to share the ending phrases of the book. Its a beautiful poem

YOU ARE EVERYTHING THAT IS,
YOUR THOUGHTS, YOUR LIFE, YOUR DREAMS COME TRUE.
YOU ARE EVERYTHING YOU CHOOSE TO BE.
YOU ARE UNLIMITED AS THE ENDLESS UNIVERSE


Anti Gossip Pact

-Karthik Gurumurthy

This is from "God's little devotional book" by John Wesley and Friends.

In 1752, a group of Methodist men, including, John Wesley, signed a covenant that each man agreed to hang on the wall of his study. The six articles of this solemn agreement were as follows:

  1. That we will not listen or willingly inquire after ill concerning one another;
  2. That, if we do hear any ill of each other, we will not be forward to believe it.
  3. That as soon as possible we will communicate what we hear by speaking or writing to the person concerned.
  4. That until we have done this, we will not write or speak a syllable of it to any other person.
  5. That neither will we mention it, after we have done this, to any other person.
  6. That we will not make any exception to any of these rules unless we think ourslves absolutely obliged in conference.

Habits

-Karthik Gurumurthy

Habits can be a two edged sword. Some can be good for you, and some can be bad. Which habits would you like to get rid of? Its very easy. Simply replace the bad with the good. Bad habits use the same amount of energy as good habits, so you may as well have good habits. For example, instead of sitting around all night watching TV on the lounge, get up and do some stretching. Make light exercise your habit. Instead of watching useless news programs, read an inspirational book. You can do much to change your negative habits, it is just a matter of recognizing them and replacing them with positive ones.

You must also start to take positive action. Change one thing at a time. Do not try to do everything in one go. You cannot succeed like this. You must tilt the scale slowly, otherwise you will fail.

But above all else, as Nike says, Just Do It.


What can be done to increase happiness in daily life?

-Karthik Gurumurthy

  • Endeavor to change the way you look at things. Always look at the bright side. The mind may drag you to think about negativity and difficulties. Don't let it. Look at the good side of every situation.
  • Think of solutions, not problems.
  • Each day devote about half-an hour and 1 hour reading some self improvement book which changes your default setting in your mind.
  • Watch your thoughts. Whenever you catch yourself thinking negative thoughts, stop them, and try to think of pleasant things.
  • Always look at what you have done and not at what you haven't. Sometimes you start a day planning to do several things.  At the end of the day you feel frustrated that you haven't been able to do all of those things, and you become unhappy.Instead do something about how can prioritize things in such a way that you become more efficient in finishing things that are most important for you.
  • Look at what you have done, not at what you have not been able to do. You may have accomplished a lot during the day, and yet you let yourself become frustrated because of some small things that you did not do. You have spent all day carrying out successfully many plans, and instead of being happy and satisfied you look at what was not done and you feel unhappy. It is unfair towards yourself.
  • Each day do at least one thing to make others happy. This can be a kind word, helping your colleagues, stopping your car at the crossroad to let people cross, giving your seat in a bus to someone else, or giving a small present to someone you love. The possibilities are infinite. When you make someone happy, you become happy.
  • Always make a decision to be happy throughout.
  •  Do not envy people who are happy. On the contrary, be happy for their happiness. Be where happy people are and try to learn from them to be happy. Remember, happiness is contagious.
  • When things do not proceed as intended and desired, do your best to stay detached. Detachment will help you to stay calm and control your moods and reactions. Detachment is not indifference. It is a completely different thing. Detachment has much to do with inner peace, and inner peace is conductive to happiness.
  • Smile more often.

Attitude and Mindset

-Karthik Gurumurthy

Your attitude is the way that you feel about yourself, other people, a situation or a circumstance. Napoleon Hill, the author of the best-selling book, Think and Grow Rich, put it so eloquently when he said, “The only thing over which you have complete right of control at all times is your mental attitude. Right of control means that you can control it, it does not mean that you do control it, you must learn to exercise this right as a matter of habit.” Think about the power of that statement and how it holds the key to building your positive attitude habits.

You have the right of control over your mental attitude. The purpose of the power of positive habits is to give you the information you need to exercise that right of control by the selective acquisition of positive habits. By doing this, you are creating a new mind set, a mind set geared towards success.