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January 2006

Think Big

High expectation always precedes high achievement.
You're as small as your controlling desires,
or as great as your dominant aspirations.

Once your mind stretches to a new idea
it never goes back to its original dimensions.
Think little goals and you can expect little achievement.
Think big goals and you'll win big success.

The first ingredient of your success is to dream a great dream.


No Pain. No Gain

"In any moment of decision, the best thing you can do is the right thing, the next best is the wrong thing and the worst is nothing."

-Theodore Roosevelt.

Fear of failure incapacitates us and the result is inaction. Inaction postulates ignoring potential to succeed. We have it in us to succeed, to be blissful and happy but we refuse to tap that potential. Look at this anecdote of the denial of insurance benefits to a person who died.

Missed opportunities are born of potential. There was a very cautious man who never laughed or cried. He had his life insured for a hefty sum and, of course, on his expiry the amount insured would go to his beneficiary. He never risked, he never lost, he never won, he never tried. And did come that day, when he died. His insurance was denied, for they said since he never really lived, he never died. So claimed the insurance company while denying his nominees the insurance amount.

Jokes apart,the anecdote brings out the fact that he never lived because he never risked, never fought, never won and as such when he didn't live, how could he have died! Opportunities and potential meant nothing to him.

Difficulties and defeats are the preambles of triumphs and successes. If you have the potential, the focus should be on getting ahead despite setbacks and challenges.

Let us reflect on the story of marbles.

There was this museum laid with beautiful marble tiles with a huge woman's marble statue displayed in the middle of the lobby. Many people came from all over the world just to admire this beautiful marble statue.

One night, the marble tiles started talking to the Marble Lady.

Marble tile: Marble lady, it's just not fair, it's just not fair! Why does everybody from all over the world come all the way here just to step on me while admiring you? Not fair!

Marble lady: My dear friend, marble tile, Do you still remember that we were actually from the same cave?

Marble tile: Yeah! That's why I feel it is even more unfair. We were born from the same cave and yet we receive different treatment now. Not fair!

Marble lady: Then, do you still remember the day when the designer tried to work on you, but you resisted his tool?

Marble tile: Yes, of course I remember. I hate that guy! How could he use his tool on me, it hurt so badly?

Marble lady: That's right! He couldn't work on you at all as you resisted being worked on.

Marble lady: When he decided to give up on you and started working on me instead, I knew at once that I would be something different after his efforts. I did not resist his tool; instead I bore all the painful tools he used on me. My friend, there is a price to everything in life. Since you decided to give up half-way, you can't blame anybody who steps on you now.

The moral of the story is:

The more hard knocks you go through in life, the more you'll learn and put them to use in future.

Do not be discouraged by setbacks, challenges and failures. No pain…no gain

Past is past, you can't change it, but it is actually a blessing in disguise.

Past was good, present is better and the future will always be the best.

Potential is working on opportunities; availing of even half a chance to get the optimum results. It will be difficult for anyone not to talk of missed or more appropriately messed-up opportunities all their lives. Here are some tips as to how make the best of opportunities as they emerge. Are you the one who converts opportunities or fritters away openings?

Ask yourself these questions and give a rating on a scale of 1 to 5, 1 being poor and 5 being excellent. And now to the posers!!

1. How good am I in availing of opportunities that are available for a short time?

2. I know what suits me and what is not right for me. Very many offers come our way. Do we know what to choose and what to discard?

3. Do I know the knack of looking for possibilities rather than waiting for them?

Sometimes we are so impatient that our impatience would have closed the doors of happiness, fame, fortune or even some small gains.

4. Am I a master in analysis paralysis?

Do I indulge in too much of analysis, that I am led to the belief that nothing is possible?

5. Am I a master of 'What if.. .'? and 'If only…' . Please recall such of those instances where you are regretting in terms of missed opportunities that led you to statements such as "What if…." and "If only…"

6. Do I believe that changes bring in opportunities?

7. Do I realize that not acting on opportunities implies creating difficulties at a later point of time?

8. How good am I in creating opportunities? Am I good in imagining, am I good in visualization? You want some tips on visualization?

Get into serious exercise of visualizing things as though they are real. As though they are actually happening. This is visualization for you. Let me give you one example. Assume You have with you $500,000 (in reality you have nothing). You are sending your son for PhD in Biochemistry at Harvard. You see your son's name in the merit list of all subjects. You see his portrait in the hall of fame. President Bush has a special word for him for his innovative solution to the problem afflicting HIV victims. As a parent, you can't but feel elated and on top of the world.

This is something that is very real for you. You are envisioning the future. You see the potential. When you visualize the future in such vivid details, you are committed to doing all that it takes to make it real. Do we have this commitment? Do we have this focus?

Now, take a look at the score card. Are you good, excellent or do you need to work on some of your behavioral pattern? Yes, if help is what is wanted, it is always available..

Do you know who can help you to get the best of opportunities?

"There's a person, I know,
A person I can go to,
And HE/SHE is living deep inside me"

Opportunities will keep on knocking at your door but we must have the ears to respond; if one door closes, many will open. The world is yours if you keep yourself focused on our highest values, your goals and aspirations in life. Who can guide you better than YOU? Never underestimate how far you can go by merely being yourself - the real YOU.


4Ds of spiritual Growth

"Strive to be so strong that nothing can disturb your peace of mind. To be too wise for worry, too tolerant for hate, and too courageous to be fearful. In short, to be happy."

-- Unknown Source

Reflect on this pathway for meaningful growth:

DISCIPLINE - To create change in our lives, we need to consistently focus on what we want.

DETACHMENT - Practice the art of detached observation. Let go of automatic defenses and patterns.

DISCERNMENT - Seek to discern the lower from the higher. What is self-serving and what is soul-inspired? Discernment carries no judgment. There are no goods and bads. Remain as a detached witness.

DHARMA - This is an East Indian word meaning "living your unique purpose." How do you find meaning and fulfillment in ways that are natural to you? How do you best serve and contribute to the world?

"If you wish to travel far and fast, travel light. Take off all your envies, jealousies, unforgiveness, selfishness, and fears."

-- Glenn Clark


Playing your role

"What concerns me is not the way things are, but rather the way people think things are."

-- Epicetus

When we are basically unconscious, we live according to social roles. We perform as sons and daughters, mothers and fathers, husbands and wives, employers and employees, as society expects us to.

As we grow in awareness, we gain the freedom to bring our own unique perspectives to these roles. We can express ourselves authentically and creatively, without letting our roles dictate how we should behave.

"Risk! Risk anything! Care no more for the opinion of others, for those voices. Do the hardest thing on earth for you. Act for yourself. Face the truth."

-- Katherine Mansfield


Working smart..not hard

"The whole secret of freedom from anxiety over not having enough time lies not in working more hours, but in the proper planning of the hours."

-- Frank Bettger

We need to commit time to doing the right things for ourselves, and only we can judge what’s right for us. We need to clearly know what we want, and we need to believe we can have it. Having goals in mind, we can avoid the trap of busyness and get right down to business. Efficiency is not nearly as important as effectiveness.

For fulfillment, we need to take our lives off autopilot. We need to consciously decide what we will and will not do, moment by moment. We need to give ourselves the space, support and freedom to be proactive in choosing how we live each day.

"Learn to use ten minutes intelligently. It will pay you huge dividends."

-- William A. Irwin


Forgiveness

"To get to forgiveness, we first have to work through the painful experiences that require it."

-- Christiane Northrup

To forgive, we do not have to say that whatever happened was okay. In fact, before we can forgive, we need to allow ourselves to really feel the pain of the experience. If we don’t fully acknowledge our hurts, we will continue to carry them subconsciously and they will drain our energy.

To forgive, we need to decide that we won’t allow the memories of the event to poison us any longer. We’re ready to heal this wound from the past and open to a fresh new beginning.

The blessing is that when we’re really ready to experience our pain and we open to it, it usually fades away. By honouring our pain, we release it.

"We must let ourselves feel all the painful destruction we want to forgive rather than swallow it in denial. If we do not face it, we cannot choose to forgive it."

-- Kenneth McNoll


Prosperity

"Money is better than poverty, if only for financial reasons."

-- Woody Allen

To become more prosperous, we need to change on at least two levels. First, we must ensure our financial affairs are in order. We need an income that at least covers our expenses. And we need a foundation of habits, tools and skills so we achieve some financial stability in our day-to-day experience.

Second, we must become aware of the beliefs we hold around money and prosperity. If we unconsciously believe we are lacking in some way, then no matter what we do, we will unconsciously sabotage our own efforts to improve our finances.

And third, it's helpful to understand the spiritual principles that govern our level of abundance. Once we know those principles, we can work effectively within them to attract abundance to us.

"If you're prosperous in soul, you'll be prosperous in whole."

-- Mark Victor Hansen


Freedom to choose

"On Freedom"

"Our ultimate freedom is the right and power to decide how anybody or anything outside ourselves will affect us."

-- Stephen Covey

A Greek myth can help us understand the freedom that comes with power of choice.

In the Underworld, Sisyphus was condemned to roll a large stone up a hill from which it always rolled down again. Realistically, he was trapped in an endless cycle of rolling the stone. When he perceived himself to be imprisoned by the curse, he was a victim.

At one point, however, he turned the tables -- he changed his mind and decided to CHOOSE to roll the stone up the hill. In doing so, he empowered himself and defused the curse.

"Freedom is what you do with what's been done to you."

-- Jean-Paul Sartre

"One cannot make a slave of a free person, for a free person is free even in a prison."

-- Plato


Success has a price tag

There's a price to pay if you want to make things better,
and a price to pay for just leaving things as they are.

Whatever you want in life, you must give up something to get it.
The greater the value, the greater the sacrifice required of you.

Nothing worthwhile ever comes easily.
Work, continuous work and hard work,
is the only way to accomplish results that last.
Use your imagination more than your memory to achieve success.

There is no success at bargain basement prices.
Everything has a price.

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©2006 by Max Steingart


Ten pointers for the Permanent Change in yourself

As human beings, we’re creatures of habit. No wonder making a major life change is so hard! But it can be done. Follow these steps to get your change in motion, one easy step at a time:

1. Identify the price of maintaining the status quo. Not making the change you know you need to make is costing you. Do some soul searching; consult with trusted allies, or journal to yourself to uncover the payoffs you’re receiving, and the prices you’re paying for maintaining the status quo. When you get that the price of not making the change is greater than the payoff, you'll be more committed to moving forward.

2. Create a reserve of everything. We don’t always have to make a difficult change from where we are now. If we have issues with money, time, space, emotional support, skills, etc., make a plan now to get more than you need in these areas, creating a stronger foundation from which to launch in your new direction. Keep in mind that it’s better to be over-prepared and arrive at your destination than to fail because you were just a hair short of having what you needed to get there.

3. Forgive self-judgments. Guilt is rampant in our culture. So is the vendetta against selfishness. Suffering is supported and nurtured by friends, family, religions, etc. So it’s not surprising that many of us, deep down, don’t feel we deserve to have what we want. For example, maybe you feel you’re not good enough or deserving of the life you really want. Or maybe you feel that the change you’re about to make will hurt someone close to you. Or you may feel that you’re not smart enough, resourceful enough, bold enough, or just plain "enough" to make this change. Acknowledge these judgments, then forgive yourself for holding these false perceptions about who you really are. Because the truth is, they are only ideas, many of which are irrational, and you will create yourself each moment based on the new idea you hold about who you are.

4. Stop complaining. Are you complaining about being in the situation you’re in? Are you blaming others? Or have you accepted full responsibility for your situation and just beat yourself up for not making the change? If any of the above are true, you are playing the victim and you’re forfeiting your power to make the change you say you want. Even if you’re blaming yourself for not being happy or for not having the courage to make the change, then part of you is beating up on another part of yourself, hence there’s a victim in there somewhere. To the degree you play the role of victim, you lose power you could be using to move forward. So get behind yourself completely and own your full power to create the life you desire, no matter what.

5. Give up analysis that breeds paralysis. We are so conditioned to figure things out before we leap, that sometimes we become paralyzed to take the actions our bodies are directed to take from the beginning. This is particularly true if you’re an engineer, scientist, or other type of technical person who experiences the world more through analysis than through feeling. If you’re stuck in a thinking pattern rehashing the same ideas over and over, trying to figure out what will happen, then you’re stuck in a mind-loop. It’s time to quit thinking and start doing. Feel in your body what it wants to do, then just do it! The information you’re seeking may only be available after you take action anyway. Wisdom often comes from experience, not from analysis.

6. Develop a compelling vision. Leaving a longstanding relationship or a long-time career can be very frightening. This is because if what we have is all we see, then to give it up means we’ll have nothing left. This is a terrible illusion. New opportunities, relationships, resources, connections, and ideas always rush in to fill space in our lives. But first, you have to make the space for something new, and second, create a clear vision of what your life will look like once your change is complete. The vision of your new future eliminates the fear of the unknown--which can keep you stuck for a long time! Your vision will form the matrix on which you will create your new life and give you the inspiration and courage you need to move on.

7. Risk failure. Does your fear of failing keep you stuck? If so, define what failure looks like to you. Imagine the worst possible thing happening. Can you live with that? Can you make course corrections before it happens or after it happens? The answer is almost always "yes." So, please, do yourself a favor, remove the word "failure" from your vocabulary. Realize that each action simply yields a result--one you want or one you don’t want. Use this as feedback from the universe and take the next logical step. From this perspective, mistakes are just indications of a course correction and not to be taken personally. Pilots are checking their compass all the time and making course corrections based on this feedback. They’d never get anywhere if they took every off-course reading as a personal failure. Give up the concept of failure and take flight!

8. Recruit your inner warrior. Within each of us there is an instinctual aspect built for bold, decisive action. It looks out, not only for our survival, but also for our soul’s mission. It sends messages in the form of feelings in your body. They may come as "gut" feelings, or just a sense of "knowing" that has no rational foundation. If you’re facing a difficult change, and have "contemplated" yourself into a corner, it may be time to let your inner warrior take over for a while. Just act "as if" you "know" what to do, then do it without thinking about it until after it’s done.

9. Get support to help you through the change. Big life changes can be overwhelming. There’s no shame in asking for help from friends, relatives, or from a coach. In fact, enough of the right kind of support can make a seemingly difficult change, relatively easy. For me, being a former lone-ranger, asking for and accepting help from others was difficult at first, but really nice once I got used to it. Now I wouldn't think of starting a major project or making a big change without relying on my support system of close and loving friends, and my coach. Do whatever is necessary to make change easy on yourself. You’re worth it!

10. Don’t go to your deathbed wondering what would have happened if....

It's easy for us to forget how short our lives really are. Many of us live as if we’ll never die. We waste away our hours and days working jobs we hate, living just for the weekends, or "putting in time" until retirement, living most of our lives like zombies. We may live in a relationship that is draining and disempowering thinking it might magically get better somehow, someday. We deny our feelings or make excuses for frittering our lives away. This is insane. Stop it now! Our lives are so precious and so short. I challenge you to project yourself forward to your death. It’s real and it’s coming for you! See yourself on your deathbed and ask yourself if the life you’re living now is all you dreamt it to be. Write your own obituary today. How close are you to living your passion? Let this vision be a motivator to get off your butt and follow your dreams!


Jan 20, 2006 Quote for the day

Jan 20, 2006 Quote#!

"The rung of a ladder was never meant to rest upon, but only to hold a man’s foot long enough to enable him to put the other somewhat higher."

– Thomas Huxley, biologist

Quote#2
"Always dream and shoot higher than you know how to. Don’t bother just to be better than your contemporaries or predecessors. Try to be better than yourself."

– William Faulkner, writer


Attitude of Gratitude

Everyday is a blessing, and in each moment there are many things that we can be grateful for. The world opens up to us when we live in a space of gratitude. In essence, gratitude has a snowball effect. When we are appreciative and express that gratitude, the universe glows a bit brighter and showers us with even more blessings.

There is always something to be grateful for, even when life seems hard. When times are tough, whether we are having a bad day or stuck in what may feel like an endless rut, it can be difficult to take the time to feel grateful. Yet, that is when gratitude can be most important. If we can look at our lives, during periods of challenge, and find something to be grateful for, then we can transform our realities in an instant. There are blessings to be found everywhere. When we are focusing on what is negative, our abundance can be easy to miss. Instead, choosing to find what already exists in our lives that we can appreciate can change what we see in our world. We start to notice one blessing, and then another.

When we constantly choose to be grateful, we notice that every breath is a miracle and each smile becomes a gift. We begin to understand that difficulties are also invaluable lessons. The sun is always shining for us when we are grateful, even if it is hidden behind clouds on a rainy day. A simple sandwich becomes a feast, and a trinket is transformed into a treasure. Living in a state of gratitude allows us to spread our abundance because that is the energy that we emanate from our beings. Because the world reflects back to us what we embody, the additional blessings that inevitably flow our way give us even more to be grateful for. The universe wants to shower us with blessings. The more we appreciate life, the more life appreciates and bestows us with more goodness.


Be the Best "YOU"

The good you find in others, is in you too.

The faults you find in others are your faults as well.

After all, to recognize something you must know it.

The possibilities you see in others, are possible for you as well.

The beauty you see around you is your beauty.

The world around you is a reflection, a mirror showing you the person you are.

To change your world, you must change yourself.

To blame and complain will only make matters worse.

Whatever you care about, is your responsibility.

What you see in others shows you yourself.

See the best in others, and you will be your best.

Give to others, and you give to your self and you will be beautiful.

Admire creativity, and you will be creative.

Love and you will be loved.

Seek to understand, and you will be understood.

Listen and your voice will be heard.

Show your best face to the mirror, and you'll be happy with the face looking back at you.


You are Unique!!!

"Recognize that you are unique in all eternity...You are one of a kind!...there is nobody like you anywhere on Earth today, and there never will be anybody like you in all eternity, because the Universe never duplicates itself. It all boils down to the fact that if any one of us does not fulfill that purpose for which he or she was placed on Earth, growth is slowed down because nobody can do what you do, exactly the way you do it. Very simply, that means that there is no competition."
-Foster Hibbard


A-Z of Stress Management

Always take time for yourself, at least 30 minutes per day.
Be aware of your own stress meter: Know when to step back and cool down.
Concentrate on controlling your own situation, without controlling everybody else.
Daily exercise will burn off the stress chemicals.
Eat lots of fresh fruit, veggies, bread and water, give your body the best for it to perform at its best.
Forgive others, don't hold grudges and be tolerant -- not everyone is as capable as you.
Gain perspective on things, how important is the issue?
Hugs, kisses and laughter: Have fun and don't be afraid to share your feelings with others.
Identify stressors and plan to deal with them better next time.
Judge your own performance realistically; don't set goals out of your own reach.
Keep a positive attitude, your outlook will influence outcomes and the way others treat you.
Limit coffee and eliminate alcohol,and other stimulants, they affect your perception and behavior.
Manage money well, seek advice and save at least 10 per cent of what you earn.
No is a word you need to learn to use without feeling guilty.
Outdoor activities by yourself, or with friends and family, can be a great way to relax.
Play your favorite game rather than watching television.
Quit smoking: It is stressing your body daily, not to mention killing you too.
Relationships: Nurture and enjoy them, learn to listen more and talk less.
Sleep well, with a firm m attress and a supportive pillow; don't overheat yourself and allow plenty of ventilation.
Treat yourself once a week with a massage, dinner out, the movies: Moderation is the key.
Understand things from the other person's point of view.
Verify information from the source before exploding.
Worry less, it really does not get things completed better or quicker.
Xpress: Make a regular retreat to your favorite space.

Yearly goal setting: Plan what you want to achieve based on your priorities in your career, relationships, etc.
Zest for life: Each day is a gift, smile and be thankful that you are a part of the bigger picture


Quotes for Jan 17, 2006

Quotes for Jan 17, 2006

"At first our dreams seem impossible, then they seem improbable, but when we summon the will, they become inevitable."

– Christopher Reeve, actor

"There is nothing wrong with being afraid---but there is nothing more wrong than allowing that to be your master."

-Bobby Darin

"I am a great believer in luck, and I find the harder I work the more I have of it."

– Thomas Jefferson, 3rd US president

Progress is impossible without change, and those who cannot change their minds cannot change anything. –

George Bernard Shaw, 1856-1950, Irish Dramatist and Nobel Peace Prize Winner

"We first make our habits, and then our habits make us."

–John Dryden, writer


Quotes for Sunday January 15,2006

Quotes for today
"I am more afraid of an army of 100 sheep led by a lion than an army of 100 lions led by a sheep."

– Charles Maurice de Talleyrand, French statesman
Quotes for today
"In order to be a leader, a man must have followers. And to have followers, a man must have their confidence. Hence, the supreme quality for a leader is unquestionably integrity. Without it, no real success is possible."

– Dwight D. Eisenhower, 34th US

Advice for the Road

by Dr. John C. Maxwell

If you were to sketch your life on paper, using only a solid line to represent your journey, what would it look like?

If you were totally honest with yourself, your line (like mine) would probably include many U-turns—occasions when you started going one way and then had to stop and change directions because your original plan wasn't working.

Some people might look at these U-turns as frustrating inconveniences that keep them from getting to their destinations on time. To me, however, they represent change—an inevitable and often critical part of achieving success and fulfillment in life. While change for the sake of change just equals whiplash, changing when you need to change (or, better yet, before you need to) equals victory.

In the series about traveling through life that we began several issues ago, we've talked about traveling light (getting rid of excess emotional baggage and keeping "short accounts"), taking someone with you, taking the high road (forgiving quickly), following the roadmap (knowing where you are and where you're going) and stopping to ask for directions (seeking credible advice). I know this material has been a bit more reflective and philosophical than what you usually read in this column, but as we approach the end of another year, I hope you have found it to be both appropriate and thought-provoking.

Today, I'll bring this series to a close with several more travel tips, including the one I just alluded to: Make U-turns when necessary. Change is hard, and most people resist it. But if you put it off too long, you'll have a difficult time reaching your destination. So rather than griping about U-turns, embrace them as opportunities to get back on the right track.

Now let's round out this travel package with four more tips that I have found to be extremely helpful on my own journey through life.

1. Appreciate the detours. To be honest, this one is really hard for me. But problems are a part of life, and having a positive attitude about them can mean the difference between success and failure. Here's what actress Gilda Radner had to say about this: "I wanted a perfect ending. Now I've learned the hard way that some poems don't rhyme and some stories don't have a clear beginning, middle and end. Life is about not knowing, having to change, taking the moment and making the best of it without knowing what's going to happen next."

2. Take pictures. Don't be in such a rush through life that you fail to create memories along the way. Make time for fun. And then stop every now and then to remember those fun times.

3. Go the extra mile. People who go the extra mile do their job and then some. They do what's required of them and then some. They do what other people expect of them and then some. It's all about commitment.

4. Stop to smell the roses. In his wonderful essay, "The Station," Robert J. Hastings talks about how our natural tendency to live for some future event often keeps us from enjoying life in the here and now. "Sooner or later we must realize there is no station, no one place to arrive at once and for all," he writes "The true joy of life is the trip." Whatever you do, don't fall into the trap of always waiting for the station. Make it a point to experience each day to the fullest. As Leo Buscaglia so aptly put it, "Life lived for tomorrow will always be just a day away from being realized."

These traveling tips I've given you over the last few months have been pretty simple, but they've guided me well on my journey and I trust they will help you on yours. As we close this series, I want to encourage you to have an abundance mentality as you go through life, not a scarcity mentality. You can believe that there's enough to go around, which leads you to be a sharing, giving person, or you can fool yourself into thinking there's not enough to go around, which forces you to grab what's yours, hold on to it and keep it for yourself.

I know you don't need me to tell you which path leads to a productive, fulfilled life. As you journey through life, take the road less traveled by, and (to paraphrase Robert Frost) you'll find that it really does make all the difference.

"This article is used by permission from Dr. John C. Maxwell's free monthly e-newsletter 'Leadership Wired' available at www.MaximumImpact.com."


Achieve your Goals in 2006

This month, an estimated 100 million Americans will embark upon a journey to fulfill their New Year's resolutions. The start of the New Year brings an ideal (and popular) time for change, as many are eager to get their lives back into normalcy after the month-long over-eating, over-buying and perhaps, over-socializing binge that often comes with the holiday season. But New Year's resolutions, as grandiose as they may sound, is really a fancy word for something many avoid for the rest of the year: goals. Whether it is New Year's or any other time of year, goals are often set and forgotten. But this year can be different.

Here are the nine most important steps to set your goals properly so you can actually achieve them in 2006.

* Scrutinize your reasoning. Do you want to start eating better and give up watching TV because someone suggested you should? Or is this something you want for yourself? In order for your goal to become reality, the reason behind it must be an enduring one. If it's not important to you, it will not last.

* Be realistic. Did you resolve to lose 50 pounds by the end of January, in time for your vacation to the Bahamas? Setting an unrealistic goal is just setting yourself up for failure. A better option? Resolve to lose no more than two pounds a week.

* Only take on what you can handle. If you bite off more than you can chew--say trying to quit smoking, lose weight, get out of debt and spend more time with your kids--the stress alone may cause you to give up. Particularly when you are trying to change lifestyle habits, focus on just one goal at a time.

* Be specific. Rather than setting a vague goal like "exercise more," plan your goal out down to the details. Resolve to "jog 30 minutes on Monday mornings, take a yoga class on Thursdays after work, go to the gym over your lunch hour on Wednesdays," etc.

* Keep it simple. It's common for people to lump many goals into one, daunting mega-goal. A goal of owning your own restaurant, buying a vacation home in Tahoe and a new home for your parents would fit into this category. Attainable goals are simple ones that take it a step at a time.

* Take action. Once you have your goal in mind, write it down on paper. Then take the steps necessary to set it into motion. Want to pay off your debts, for instance? Figure out how much you can afford to save for this purpose each month, then pick a day to tend to bills each week.

* Keep track of your progress. Your goal must have a measurable outcome if you are to keep motivated. Do you want to save X dollars a week? Lose X pounds a month? Determine what you are aiming for, then monitor how close you are to getting it.

* Share your goals. Telling other (supportive!) people about your intentions is an excellent morale booster. These people can encourage you when you get off track and keep you focused on what you're trying to achieve.

* Pat yourself on the back. Reward yourself for every step you take toward reaching your goal. This is a necessary step to keep yourself feeling motivated and to keep your momentum going. You deserve recognition as you move toward reaching your goals.


Quotes for today

Quotes for today

"How you see yourself is the way you’ll end up being."

– Kenneth Cole, clothing designer

"Kindness is a language that the deaf can hear and the blind can read."

– Mark Twain, author

"In a time of drastic change, it is the learners who inherit the future."

– Eric Hoffer, philosopher

"Confidence . . . thrives on honesty, on honor, on the sacredness of obligations, on faithful protection and on unselfish performance. Without them it cannot live."

– Franklin Delano Roosevelt, 32nd US president

"If you don’t have time to do it right, when will you have time to do it over?"

– John Wooden, UCLA basketball coach

What we have done for ourselves alone dies with us; what we have done for others and the world remains and is immortal.
- Albert Pike. (1809-1891)

"Success without honor is an unseasoned dish; it will satisfy your hunger, but it won’t taste good."

– Joe Paterno, football coach


Only You

By Darnitia R. Mcgriff


A person can make you feel high,
A person can make you feel low.
But only you can decide,
Which way you want to go.

A person can hurt you mentally,
A person can hurt you physically.
But only you can place,
A limit on your abilities.

A person can cause drama,
A person can cause a situation.
But only you can create,
Your own reputation.

A person can make you laugh,
A person can make you cry.
But only you can make,
Decisions for your life.

I guess what I'm trying to say,
That when you're living day to day.
Don't live by what people do,
But live by what you know is true.


Press on

Persistence is failing 19 times and succeeding the 20th.
-- J. Andrews

Press on. Nothing in the world can take the place of persistence.
-- Ray Kroc

Persistence is what makes the impossible possible, the possible likely and the likely definite.
-- Robert Half


Heard of Energy Account ?

by R. Sridhar, Times of India

When we see our near and dear ones suffer on account of illness, or any kind of tension, our heart reaches out to them, isn't it? We want to help them, and do our bit to alleviate their suffering. We are able to do this if we are physically close to them, but how about those who live far away? The trauma of having to wait endlessly for that all-important phone call, or that email, can be traumatic. Is there, then, nothing that we can do apart from saying a line or two in prayer?

There is an option. Rather, it is a technique, which works on the same logic as a recurring deposit (RD) account. When we open a RD account with the bank, we instruct the latter to transfer a stipulated amount of money from our savings account to the RD periodically. This RD carries a higher rate of interest and the amount you get in the end, is much more.

Now, this technique that I'm talking about, works on similar lines. For instance, let's assume one Mr Ravi Krishnan is unwell. He stays in the US, and being in regular touch with him is difficult and costly too. But your heart aches to know how he is doing, and you want to do your best for him. Here's what you can do:

Open a Ravi Krishnan Energy Account in your mind. This 'account' is being created to accumulate energy for Ravi Krishnan - energy that you are willing to donate or transfer from your energy account.

Mentally affirm that X percentage of my daily generation of positive energy, goes into Ravi Krishnan's Energy Account. In this case, you are giving an instruction to the ether to transfer that much volume of energy into his account daily. You decide what percentage of energy you want to transfer. Importantly, it should be an amount that you are comfortable with.

You can also programme the duration. For eg. Your pledge could read as "10 per cent of the positive energy that I generate everyday goes into Ravi Krishnan's Energy Account for a period of 10 days."

Though this technique may sound a bit unbelievable, the effect is profound. It works the same way as your bank. If many people simultaneously do this, the effect is that much more. Each one can open a Ravi Krishnan Energy account in their minds, and pledge an energy donation. This provides a regular stream of energy to Ravi Krishnan.
Illness or stress arises out of paucity of energy in the system compounded by the fact that the individual is unable to generate the required of quota of energy on his own. This technique can help bridge that gap. Try it out, and share your experiences here.


Universal Feelings

Every day we hear stories of personal suffering and loss that far exceed our own. When we compare our situations to those of people living in war-torn countries or those who have lost their homes and livelihoods to natural disasters, it is tempting to minimize our own experiences of suffering. We may feel that we don't have a right to be upset about the breakup of a relationship, for example, because at least we have food to eat and a roof over our heads.

While awareness of the pain of others in the world can be a valuable way to keep our own struggles in perspective, it is not a legitimate reason to disregard our own pain. Disparaging your feelings as being less important than other people's emotions leads to denial and repression. Over time, an unwillingness to experience your own feelings leads to numbness. It is as if our internal systems become clogged with our unexpressed emotions. This in no way helps other people who are suffering in the world. In fact, it may do just the opposite because when we devalue our own sorrow, we become impervious to the sorrow in others.

Fully experiencing our own hurt is the gateway to compassion toward other human beings. Feelings of loss, abandonment, loneliness, and fear are universal, and, in that sense, all feelings are created equal. Regardless of what leads us to feel the way we do, our comprehension of what it means to be human is deepened by our own experiences. Our personal lives provide us with the material we need to become fully conscious. If we reject our emotions because we think our experiences are not dramatic or important enough, we are missing out on our own humanity. We honor and value the human condition when we fully inhabit our bodies so we can experience and feel life fully. Accepting our emotions and allowing ourselves to feel them connects us to all human beings. Then, when we hear the stories of other people's suffering, our hearts can resonate with understanding and compassion-for all of us.


Facing the Fear

Happy New Year 2006.

We are not born with courage, but neither are we born with fear. Maybe some of our fears are brought on by your own experiences, by what someone has told you, by what you’ve read in the papers.

Some fears are valid, like walking alone in a bad part of town at two o’clock in the morning. But once you learn to avoid that situation, you won’t need to live in fear of it. Fears, even the most basic ones, can totally destroy our ambitions. Fear can destroy fortunes. Fear can destroy relationships. Fear, if left unchecked, can destroy our lives. Fear is one of the many enemies lurking inside us. Let me tell you about five of the other enemies we face from within.

The first enemy that you’ve got to destroy before it destroys you is indifference. What a tragic disease this is. "Ho-hum, let it slide. I'll just drift along." Here’s one problem with drifting: you can't drift your way to the top of the mountain.

The second enemy we face is indecision. Indecision is the thief of opportunity and enterprise. It will steal your chances for a better future. Take a sword to this enemy.

The third enemy inside is doubt. Sure, there’s room for healthy skepticism. You can’t believe everything. But you also can’t let doubt take over. Many people doubt the past, doubt the future, doubt each other, doubt the government, doubt the possibilities and doubt the opportunities.

Worst of all, they doubt themselves. I’m telling you, doubt will destroy your life and your chances of success. It will empty both your bank account and your heart. Doubt is an enemy. Go after it. Get rid of it.

The fourth enemy within is worry. We’ve all got to worry some. Just don’t let it conquer you. Instead, let it alarm you. Worry can be useful. If you step off the curb in New York City and a taxi is coming, you’ve got to worry. But you can’t let worry loose like a mad dog that drives you into a small corner. Here’s what you’ve got to do with your worries: drive them into a small corner. Whatever is out to get you, you’ve got to get it. Whatever is pushing on you, you’ve got to push back.

The fifth interior enemy is over-caution. It is the timid approach to life. Timidity is not a virtue (unlike humility--they are different); in fact, it can be an illness. If you let it go, it’ll conquer you. Timid people don’t get promoted. They don’t advance and grow and become powerful in the marketplace. You’ve got to avoid over-caution.

Do battle with the enemy. Do battle with your fears. Build your courage to fight what’s holding you back, what’s keeping you from your goals and dreams. Be courageous in your life and in your pursuit of the things you want and the person you want to become.

About the Author:
This article was written by Jim Rohn. Jim Rohn is a highly respected American businessman, author, speaker, and philosopher.This article was published with permission of Jim Rohn International.
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