"In any moment of decision, the best thing you can do is the right thing, the next best is the wrong thing and the worst is nothing."
Fear of failure incapacitates us and the result is inaction. Inaction postulates ignoring potential to succeed. We have it in us to succeed, to be blissful and happy but we refuse to tap that potential. Look at this anecdote of the denial of insurance benefits to a person who died.
Missed opportunities are born of potential. There was a very cautious man who never laughed or cried. He had his life insured for a hefty sum and, of course, on his expiry the amount insured would go to his beneficiary. He never risked, he never lost, he never won, he never tried. And did come that day, when he died. His insurance was denied, for they said since he never really lived, he never died. So claimed the insurance company while denying his nominees the insurance amount.
Jokes apart,the anecdote brings out the fact that he never lived because he never risked, never fought, never won and as such when he didn't live, how could he have died! Opportunities and potential meant nothing to him.
Difficulties and defeats are the preambles of triumphs and successes. If you have the potential, the focus should be on getting ahead despite setbacks and challenges.
Let us reflect on the story of marbles.
There was this museum laid with beautiful marble tiles with a huge woman's marble statue displayed in the middle of the lobby. Many people came from all over the world just to admire this beautiful marble statue.
One night, the marble tiles started talking to the Marble Lady.
Marble tile: Marble lady, it's just not fair, it's just not fair! Why does everybody from all over the world come all the way here just to step on me while admiring you? Not fair!
Marble lady: My dear friend, marble tile, Do you still remember that we were actually from the same cave?
Marble tile: Yeah! That's why I feel it is even more unfair. We were born from the same cave and yet we receive different treatment now. Not fair!
Marble lady: Then, do you still remember the day when the designer tried to work on you, but you resisted his tool?
Marble tile: Yes, of course I remember. I hate that guy! How could he use his tool on me, it hurt so badly?
Marble lady: That's right! He couldn't work on you at all as you resisted being worked on.
Marble lady: When he decided to give up on you and started working on me instead, I knew at once that I would be something different after his efforts. I did not resist his tool; instead I bore all the painful tools he used on me. My friend, there is a price to everything in life. Since you decided to give up half-way, you can't blame anybody who steps on you now.
The moral of the story is:
The more hard knocks you go through in life, the more you'll learn and put them to use in future.
Do not be discouraged by setbacks, challenges and failures. No pain…no gain
Past is past, you can't change it, but it is actually a blessing in disguise.
Past was good, present is better and the future will always be the best.
Potential is working on opportunities; availing of even half a chance to get the optimum results. It will be difficult for anyone not to talk of missed or more appropriately messed-up opportunities all their lives. Here are some tips as to how make the best of opportunities as they emerge. Are you the one who converts opportunities or fritters away openings?
Ask yourself these questions and give a rating on a scale of 1 to 5, 1 being poor and 5 being excellent. And now to the posers!!
1. How good am I in availing of opportunities that are available for a short time?
2. I know what suits me and what is not right for me. Very many offers come our way. Do we know what to choose and what to discard?
3. Do I know the knack of looking for possibilities rather than waiting for them?
Sometimes we are so impatient that our impatience would have closed the doors of happiness, fame, fortune or even some small gains.
4. Am I a master in analysis paralysis?
Do I indulge in too much of analysis, that I am led to the belief that nothing is possible?
5. Am I a master of 'What if.. .'? and 'If only…' . Please recall such of those instances where you are regretting in terms of missed opportunities that led you to statements such as "What if…." and "If only…"
6. Do I believe that changes bring in opportunities?
7. Do I realize that not acting on opportunities implies creating difficulties at a later point of time?
8. How good am I in creating opportunities? Am I good in imagining, am I good in visualization? You want some tips on visualization?
Get into serious exercise of visualizing things as though they are real. As though they are actually happening. This is visualization for you. Let me give you one example. Assume You have with you $500,000 (in reality you have nothing). You are sending your son for PhD in Biochemistry at Harvard. You see your son's name in the merit list of all subjects. You see his portrait in the hall of fame. President Bush has a special word for him for his innovative solution to the problem afflicting HIV victims. As a parent, you can't but feel elated and on top of the world.
This is something that is very real for you. You are envisioning the future. You see the potential. When you visualize the future in such vivid details, you are committed to doing all that it takes to make it real. Do we have this commitment? Do we have this focus?
Now, take a look at the score card. Are you good, excellent or do you need to work on some of your behavioral pattern? Yes, if help is what is wanted, it is always available..
Do you know who can help you to get the best of opportunities?
"There's a person, I know,
A person I can go to,
And HE/SHE is living deep inside me"
Opportunities will keep on knocking at your door but we must have the ears to respond; if one door closes, many will open. The world is yours if you keep yourself focused on our highest values, your goals and aspirations in life. Who can guide you better than YOU? Never underestimate how far you can go by merely being yourself - the real YOU.