by Swami Sukhabodhanda
The greed for name and fame is a juvenile tendency. In one of my workshops the husband of a woman told me, "When my wife gets angry, it is like the rage of a thousand flames. How do I deal with it?"
Can you see your expression very closely? It is a product of your imagination. One of the teachings of George Gurdjieff is …. ‘‘There is an imaginary self in all of us. If one is not watchful, it creates its own world of reality. In a relationship, we have to observe how our imaginary selves operate, and learn how to handle them with maturity."
If you catch yourself in a negative frame of mind, remember the following:
Negativity is not inherent in a given situation; it is more likely to be in us and we project that on to the situations we encounter.
For example, when we say, "Our picnic is spoiled because of rain"… a negative feeling is generated – is it in the rain or in us?
Do not identify with negative feelings. Feelings are like clouds, which come and go in fleeting moments; but you are like space, which is lasting. Do not identify with clouds; but be centred in the space of consciousness. This process is called detachment. When you are attached to your negative feelings you become a prisoner to them. Attachment creates hell. Reflect on this anecdote. Long ago, there was an interesting method for trapping monkeys. A huge jar with a narrow neck was used. Nuts were dropped into the narrow-necked jar even as a monkey was in sight. When the monkey tried to grab the nuts from the jar, it would get caught, because its fist which clutched the nuts, would get stuck in the narrow-necked jar. If it dropped the nuts, it could free its hand from the jar. But the monkeys were very greedy and could not let go of the nuts. So they got caught with their hands stuck in the jar. Are we also attached like that to the object of our greed? Do we feel puzzled when we see some people creating their own world of hell? This feeling of puzzlement relaxes our being.
The point here is that change has to happen within us first, then only can we motivate others. "If you feel good, you will experience that the world is right. But ignorant people believe that only if the world is right can they feel good."