Striving towards Excellence

-Karthik Gurumurthy

Shobana and I had few interesting discussion(s) yesterday:) Just to clear the confusion, the discussion was not about big bang theory or theory of relativity :)

No matter how hard we try, there are always conflicts that happen in our lives. There is nothing wrong with that as each individual has different way of looking at things and that is what life makes more interesting. It is easier to pretend these conflicts do not exist or to dodge the matter whenever possible. But ignoring conflict doesn't make it go away; it just feeds the conflict and makes it worse.

I feel that the surest path to resentment, strain and relationship disaster is the complete absence of disagreements. Having no disagreements means you aren't saying what you think and feel and that emotions will simmer within you until they reach a boil. I read somewhere that there are atleast ten irreconciable differences between personalities no matter how close they are. The problem for most people is that they don't recognize the differences are inevitable and should be discussed.

Healthy relationships are successful, not because people have fewer disagreements, but they apply problem solving skills to discussions. Being open for discussion and facing it head on is the only way you can make situations better.