This is one of the areas I had to work more than any others but the payoff was worth it. I still haven't reached where I wanted to be, but I am getting there. This is one of the common areas which lot of us fall short.
Accountability means being responsible for our actions—to somebody for something. However, I am not writing about how to hold other people accountable. It’s about us holding ourself accountable.
When we take 100 % responsibility for holding ourself accountable, our performance will shine, our relationships will flourish, our market value will multiply, people’s respect for uswill soar, we will be a great example for everyone to follow, and personally on top of that, our self-esteem will grow.
How is it that in all these areas of our life we can see such a great improvement? Because when we hold ourself accountable to doing the things we know we should do, we will distinguish yourself from the crowd.
I am convinced if we want to advance our life personally or professionally, we must hold ourself accountable for our actions, responsibilities, and goals. Think about it. Why should it be someone else’s responsibility to make sure we are doing the things that we know we should to be doing?
The mindset I adopted more than 3 years ago is this: it is up to me and no one else to make sure I am doing what I know I should be doing. When someone has to hold me accountable, because I failed to do what I should have done, I have a serious conversation with myself. My belief is that no one should have to hold me accountable for my actions, responsibilities and goals. While I appreciate others helping me get better, I am the one that must hold myself to a high standard.
There are three areas in which we must hold yourself accountable:
1. Our actions and choices. What actions and choices I am talking about?
- How we communicate with others.
- How we spend our time. If God wants to see what we have done in the last 24 hours and based on how we spent it, if he is going to grant another 24 hours, will we pass the test? Think about it.
- Our behavior and manners
- The consideration and respect we show others
- Our eating habits and exercising routine (I am working on this!!)
- Our attitude and thoughts
- The way we respond to challenges
2. Our responsibilities—This would include these types of things:
- Returning calls, emails, and texts in a timely manner
- Being on time for business and personal appointments
- Keeping our home, car, and workplace clean
- Spending less than we earn
- Doing the things we agreed to do when we agreed to do them
- Executing our job description to the best of our ability
- Writing things down on a “To Do” list so we don’t forget
3. Our goals—This would include our:
- Fitness and health targets
- Financial goals
- Family objectives
- Career ambitions
- Personal goals
- Marital enhancement
- Any other goals we have set for ourself
Make no mistake about it. We cannot achieve any worthwhile goal, if we don’t hold ourself accountable. The reason is simple. It’s our life! We are witnessing enough examples in day-to-day life how lack of accountability kills relationships. Eg. Tiger Woods, Arnold Schwarzeneggar...
Holding ourself accountable is nothing more than following through with OUR commitments and responsibilities. It’s doing what YOU know YOU should do, when YOU should it. Last week I had a chance to listen to Entrepreneur Sugeet Ajmani who said " the bigger gap than Grand Canyon is the gap between knowing and doing."
Irrespective of where we are in our life, let today be the day that we can make the commitment to ourself that we will NEVER again require anyone else to hold us accountable. After being associated with my wife Shobana, I have started keeping a prioritized “To Do” list which really help focus on holding myself accountable to working through my tasks in a prioritized sequence. Just like any good habit, it is difficult to get started but once you make it a habit, it is worth it. I strongly recommend it.
One life to live..Take charge and live large!