by Karthik Gurumurthy
I have spent years watching successful people, and I don't just mean successful as in having lots of money or a big-shot career. These were all people who had within themselves- happiness, peace and contentment.
Almost all successful people have a sense of their own dignity. What do I mean by this? Well, they are all pretty solid in themselves, they have worked out who they are and what they are about. They don't need to show off, brag about what they have or who they are. Their self esteem is not derived from their Profession. They don't need to draw attention to themselves because they aren't particularly interested in what we think- they are too busy getting on with things in their own lives. They maintain decorum not because they are frightened of making of themselves or falling flat on their face but because they simply are not affected with attention-seeking stuff.
It is vital to show poise, be different from the herd, have good manners, be polite and considerate to be someone others might look up to. You don't have to be all aloof and standoffish, serious and grown-up. You can still have fun, relax and take it easy.