When Will We Learn to Disagree and Stay
June 13, 2025
-Karthik Gurumurthy
Why is it so hard for us to just get along?
I think about this all the time. We're all so different - the way we think, what we've been through, how we see things. Yet here we are, trying to share the same spaces, the same world. When things are good, it's beautiful. We laugh together, support each other, and I feel like this is how life should be.
But then someone says something I completely disagree with, or sees a situation totally differently than I do, and suddenly it feels like we can't both exist in the same room. It's like their different view somehow threatens mine, or makes mine less valid. Why does it feel that way?
I keep wondering when we'll figure out how to disagree without needing the other person to leave or change or be wrong. When will we get comfortable with the fact that someone can think completely differently than us and still be a good person worth knowing?
I have this picture in my head of how things could be - people being kind to each other, respecting different opinions, everyone finding their place in the harmony of it all. But most of the time, that vision stays locked in my imagination while the real world feels much messier and more divided.
I'm still waiting for that day when we can have unity without uniformity, when we can be happy and prosperous together precisely because we're different, not in spite of it. When disagreeing doesn't mean departing, and when tolerance isn't just something we talk about but something we actually live.
Maybe I'm being too idealistic, but I can't help believing that day will come. We just need to learn how to hold space for each other's differences instead of being threatened by them.