Lessons from My Father: A Legacy of Love
August 06, 2024
-Karthik Gurumurthy
Today is my dad's birthday.
I've been reflecting on what it means to be a good parent, especially a father. The wisdom I've gathered feels important to share.
Knowledge truly is power. I've seen how education transforms lives—taking people from humble beginnings to success. But there's more to life than academics.
I believe in independence. While I'll always be there for my children, my financial support isn't endless. Once they're adults, their choices belong to them—whether they choose simplicity or luxury, that's their path to walk.
Integrity matters above all. I've learned to honor my word regardless of what others do. Being good to people without expecting anything in return saves so much heartache.
Every moment with loved ones is precious. We should treasure our time together because we don't know what comes next.
A father's job never truly ends. Even after children turn 21 or finish college, the responsibility continues in different forms. The best fathers listen to their children's concerns, take appropriate action, and leave a spiritual legacy.
Good fathers show love through kind words and affectionate hugs. They express pride when their children succeed, making them feel valued. They discipline with love, set reasonable expectations, and serve as role models knowing children inevitably pattern their decisions after what they've observed.
The most successful fathers spend quality time with their children—playing, joking, walking together, discussing school, reading stories, and creating moments of joy that strengthen family bonds. They teach through both words and personal example, demonstrating right from wrong.
As the quote says, "A father is respected because he gives his children leadership, appreciated because he gives his children care, valued because he gives his children time, loved because he gives his children the one thing they treasure most—himself."
That's the kind of parent I aspire to be—present, loving, and leaving a legacy that extends far beyond my years.