224 posts categorized "Reflections"

Commitment

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-Karthik Gurumurthy

It feels like there is never enough time in the day to achieve everything we want to. Work, family, the daily rituals of life, getting through a to-do list sometimes seems impossible. We're living during a time when most people around the world glorify productivity. Being busy is almost considered a virtue, but it's worth asking ourselves why this is and how we can overcome it. There are a couple of problems with this excuse. The first is that we do make time for things that are important to us. Actually, it's a really interesting test of your personal values to see what you spend time on. Another problem is that we are often more engaged in meaningless actions instead of productive activity. Productivity and time management research demonstrates that we spend a significant amount of time answering emails that are reactive and less time in deep work or working without distraction on creating something, depending on your field of work, that could mean writing, connecting with clients etc.

Creating habits is more than just being motivated to do so, it requires discipline. I have a good friend who is an executive coach and business school professor who always reminds people that motivation is just one part of the equation. Discipline is key to building sustainable habits. Discipline really means a sustainable plan of action for you. Have you ever gone to a seminar or workshop and been so inspired to change your behavior at work only to have that wane once you get back because of the regular cadence of your job? That's because you needed a plan. A plan to build habits and I'm going to suggest four key things to help with this plan. Develop a regular practice for reflection and learning. Be prepared to fall off the wagon. Connect with others, and know your purpose. How can we build commitment in a way that is sustainable?

Number 1, have a regular practice for reflection and learning. Are you familiar with the scientific method? Scientists develop hypotheses, design experiments to test these hypotheses, evaluate the results, and then make adjustments to their hypotheses and complete the whole process over and over again. This is how scientists learn and actually it's how adults learn too. Models of adult learning suggest that the way we absorb and integrate new knowledge is that we take in new information, we test it out, we evaluate the results and we adjust. In this context, we can think of creating a meaningful plan as engaging in the scientific method, we need a regular, consistent and easy way to follow experimentation and learning. Learning is hard. What I find is helpful for reflection is to structure it. I typically think about reflection in four steps.

The first thing I'm trying to do as I reflect on something is to identify some if-then cause-effect relationship. When I look back at this meeting, or I look back at this project or I look back at this situation or events or whatever, I want to digest my feelings. I want to see if I miss something, all that. But then I want to, at the end of that, see if I can pull away some generalization, some lesson for myself. Then what I want to do is provide the argument for why I believe that lesson. If I think in this situation that instead of talking, I should've listened. Why? What's the outcome that would have produced? Listening more makes people trust me more. There's a potential generalization. Why do I believe that might be so? What's the argument for that? If I was going to try to convince my colleague to listen more in order to foster trust. What would I say to make them believe that to be true? What happened in this experience that led me to believe that? Is there anything else in my life that makes me think that's a good lesson? What's the lesson? Identify not just moods, feelings, etc. But what's the lesson and then what's the argument for that lesson?

Then the next step is what I think of as complexities. What are the boundary conditions, when might be hard to do this, when might it not work? There are always limitations. Nothing is always true. Things are usually true, often true, or sometimes true, true under some conditions. What are the conditions under which this lesson holds?

Then the last one is implementation. What am I going to do differently now that I appreciate this lesson? What is the behavior practice saying? What am I going to do differently so that I remember to use this lesson rather than forget about it? When I think about reflection, what's the lesson? What's the argument for the lesson? What are the limitations? What am I going to do to make use of this rather than leave this behind and forget about it? The second is to be prepared to fall off the wagon and have a plan. Part of the reason this is so interesting to me is because I have always been really good at setting a great big goal, getting excited about it, breaking it down into daily goals. Then I miss one's day, maybe I wasn't feeling well or I was preoccupied, or whatever. I think well, missed that day might as well give up. We actually need to have a practice for what happens when we aren't achieving our smaller goals. Is it because we didn't set the right goal to begin with? Maybe we need to course correct or did we simply have a bad day and we need to forgive ourselves and think about tomorrow as a fresh start?

Research on fresh starts show that they do matter. They matter for motivation and commitment to our goals. Decide whether your practice needs to change or if you just needed a break, either way, you can keep going. The third is to connect with others. You might have heard it said that if you share your goals with others, you're more likely to achieve them. This is true. Making a commitment to others holds us accountable. It's why gym buddies are such a good idea. It's easy to skip the gym if it's just you. It's harder to tell your friend who's already in the car and headed to the gym that you're going to leave her hanging. Growing as a leader is an individual journey, but it is not an isolated one. Other people are on leadership growth plans of their own and creating these connections can be so helpful. When I was completing my leadership coach training, I found that my commitment to my own practice of leadership growth felt like it took off because I had this group of like-minded people to talk to, share ideas with, and to go to for advice. The fourth is keep the big picture in mind. What is your purpose? Don't get scared by the word purpose. I don't mean you have to write a treatise on your reason for existence. I simply mean know why you're interested in developing as a leader. Why is this journey important to you? What are you hoping to accomplish throughout it? Why is a powerful concept and having that big picture goal in mind can be a powerful way to help us stay committed to our daily exercises. Growing as a leader requires commitment. That means we have to build sustainable habits that will help us stay on track while we grow, create a practice for experimentation and reflection, course correct and use a fresh start when you course correct. Connect with others who want to grow as leaders and know your why for choosing to focus on your own leadership growth.


Why Travel?

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-Karthik Gurumurthy

To wanderlust's insistent call, a traveler takes heed,
Beyond the map, a world enthrall, a tapestry to read.

New lands unfurl, with sights unseen, where senses come alive,
From bustling streets, a vibrant scene, to mountains reaching high.

A tapestry of cultures weave, in languages unknown,
With open hearts, the travelers receive, a kindness they have sown.

The compass spins, a lesson taught, not just where we may roam,
But self-discovery, dearly sought, a journey found in home.

For wanderlust unlocks the mind, with every winding trail,
A broader view, a heart more kind, a spirit that won't fail.

 


Importance of Lifelong learning

-Karthik Gurumurthy

Dr. Louis Brus delivered his Nobel Prize lecture today  at the Aula Magna, Stockholm University. He was introduced by Professor Heiner Linke, Member of the Nobel Committee for Chemistry. He was awarded the Nobel Prize this year for his work in Quantum dots.

“We’re all trapped by our educational backgrounds. You come out of school knowing a certain field but you don’t know about any other fields of science. That limits what you can do for sure. The way to combat this is to every day learn something new. I tell my grad students that the greatest skill they have is to continue to learn by themselves after they have left graduate school. Most of the things I have used in my life are things that were invented after I left graduate school and I had to keep learning just to keep up with the field.”- Louis Brus

You can watch the entire lecture here.

Continuous learning is the key to staying relevant in an ever-evolving world. Louis Brus's perspective resonates deeply – the ability to adapt and acquire new knowledge independently is indeed a priceless skill.

It's fascinating to hear about Louis Brus's emphasis on continual learning beyond formal education, especially in a field as dynamic as science.

It reinforces the idea that success isn't just about innate genius, but about a commitment to growth and staying curious. 


Life lessons

-Karthik Gurumurthy

From a young age, I've harbored a deep desire to become a valuable member of society. I believe that each of us has a unique purpose and the potential to make a positive impact on the world around us. As I look ahead to this new chapter, I encourage all of you to consider how you too can become valuable members of society. It's not about fame or fortune, but rather about the lasting impact we leave on the lives of others.

As I step into my 50s, I am filled with gratitude for the journey thus far and excitement for the adventures that lie ahead. My wish is that each of you embarks on your own journey of becoming a valuable member of society, leaving a legacy that shines brightly for generations to come.

Thank you for being a part of my journey, and let's continue to inspire and uplift one another.

For my birthday, I have shared a list of lessons to document on the lessons I have learned over the years.

  • Stop talking and start doing. NOW!
  • Get over yourself. Anything worth doing is worth sucking at it…at first.
  • Be your own boss—no matter who you work for.
  • Please make sure your wife is well taken care of. Marriage is a garden that requires consistent attention to flourish.
  • Give your kids the gift of working through their own struggles.
  • Assume any text, email, or anything in writing will become public.
  • Embrace change before it’s forced on you.
  • Stop arguing and start listening. You don’t win people over with logic. You win them over by listening.
  • Be generous with your time, ideas, attention, smiles, compliments, and money.
  • Remember the Caterpillar and the Butterfly. In your struggle to break out of your darkest moments, you transform into something new and build the strength in your wings to soar.
  • Persist until you succeed, but also know when it’s wise to quit.
  • Earn respect by respecting yourself first.
  • Demand more of yourself than anyone else could ever imagine expecting of you.
  • Pursue excellence in the 5 F’s of your life—Faith, Family, Finances, Fitness, and Friendships. Weakness in any area puts your entire life out of balance.
  • Stretch your comfort zone daily. Life’s best opportunities lie on the other side of fear.
  • Embrace failure, but don’t repeat it.
  • Celebrate success, but don’t rest on it.
  • Live each day with urgency—and patience.
  • Don’t worry about the failure that could be. Worry about the regret that’s guaranteed if you don’t try.
  • Stay grounded by deepening your faith.
  • Accomplish big goals with small steps.
  • Thank those who doubted you.
  • Inspire others to break through their barriers to success by breaking through your own.
  • Reject rejection. People don’t reject you as a person. They reject your words, ideas, offer, or product. Don’t take it personally.
  • Always Be Serving
  • Solve people’s problems, and you’ll never be unemployed.
  • Treat everyone with dignity and respect—especially your enemies and critics.
  • Dress to show respect.
  • Surround yourself with people who raise your game.
  • Find joy in the journey-especially your struggles.
  • Fear mediocrity, not failure.
  • Learn how- and when-to say no.

Making it count

-Karthik Gurumurthy

18262 days in this planet. and starting 18263rd day here. Thankful to amazing parents, wife, brother, teachers, friends and family for being there throughout this journey. My journey would have ended in 3176 days if not for all the Blessings and prayers from parents. 

There’s something about milestone birthdays that make us reflect. And as great as it is to look back and be grateful for all the experiences that have shaped who I am today, I’m even more excited to look forward at what’s yet to come. You see, if there’s one thing I’ve learned, it’s that every day is a gift. We only get one life, and it’s up to us to decide how to spend our time. Working on making each day count for making a positive impact to make sure dash counted for something good. Don’t let people scare you. 50 is amazing!

I have more life experience than ever before.
I know myself better than ever before.
I have more meaningful relationships, and a purpose that drives me to get up and be excited about my work.
I have no idea what aging gracefully means, but aging happily is pretty sweet.

My wife Shobana was so thoughtful and kind to reach out to my long list of students and created an amazing video which made my day. I can't imagine the amount of work that went for creating that. It was lovely to see students from different timelines joining hands. Awesome to see everyone. Thank you, Shobana. It was the best Birthday gift, ever.

Spending time with my mom, son and wife. What more can I ask for? I do miss my dad, though. But I know he is there with me all the time guiding us every step on a day-to-day basis.

My advice is don’t get so busy with life that you forget to live. Spend your time wisely and invest in the things and people worth your time and energy.

  • It's an opportunity to reflect and share some life lessons.
  • The world is not black and white. Life is full of complexities and nuances, shades of gray that make every situation unique. Embrace the ambiguity and learn to navigate through it.
  • Getting along is more important than being right. You don't always have to win every argument. Sometimes, maintaining relationships and harmony is far more essential.
  • Nothing is more important than family. They are your rock in times of storm, your source of joy and balance. Cherish them.
  • Elevation requires separation. Go work on yourself.
  • There is a difference between giving your kids the you never had vs. giving them the things you never needed.
  • Carpe diem: Seize the day, seize the moment, seize the opportunity. Make the most out of every day.
  • Let go of what you can't control. Worrying about things beyond your control only drains your energy. Focus on what you can influence and let the rest unfold as it will.

As I step into the second half-century of my life, I carry these lessons close to my heart. Hoping they resonate with you too.

Thankful and  feeling Blessed for everything. I have been blessed abundantly in every facet of life. I couldn't have asked for more.

When I was born 50 years ago today, my parents certainly rejoiced in the gift of my life. Today, I know that what I most desire—for my life to have significance, to add value, to be coherent—is not an achievement but a gift.


Learning agility

-Karthik Gurumurthy

Helen Tupper and Sarah Ellis shared yesterday in HBR about how to be an agile learner. 

What is learning agility?

Learning agility is the skill of learning from experiences so you can succeed in new situations. For example, a leader with learning agility can successfully transfer their talents across different parts of an organization. And individuals with high learning agility become the trusted “go-tos” for high-profile projects and high-impact positions. An agile learner can successfully navigate two different types of newness: complex work with no blueprint and situations where they have no previous experience. Where some people struggle with the high levels of ambiguity that newness creates, agile learners take advantage of the opportunity and succeed in situations where other people might stall.

Agile learners are adept at empathizing with and even anticipating different perspectives. By putting themselves in other people’s shoes, they can connect dots, spot and resolve potential conflicts, and zoom out to see the bigger picture. Rather than waiting to be told a different point of view or that something won’t work, agile learners seek out dissenting opinions and are open-minded in their approach. 

Agile learners have high levels of self-awareness. They understand their impact and seek insight on how they can improve. They are specific about the support they need and confident enough to ask for help from others so they can be at their best. They see learning as a constant and are proactively curious about the world around them, borrowing brilliance from different people and places.

Questions to ask ourselves about our learning agility:

  • How often do I work on something for the first time?
  • When have I spent time in my courage zone (i.e., doing something I find “scary”) over the past three months?
  • How do I respond when priorities and plans change without warning?
  • Who do I have conversations with to learn about people and teams I have limited knowledge of?
  • How confident am I in high-challenge conversations, where people have different points of view?
  • How much cognitive diversity (i.e., people who bring a variety of different experiences, perspectives) do I have in my career community?
  • How do I feel about asking for the help I need to succeed?
  • Where do my strengths have the most impact in the work that I do?
  • How frequently do I ask for feedback on what I do well, and how I could improve my impact?

 

 


Thought for the day

-Karthik Gurumurthy

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“Choose a day as your day of simplicity. Speak little, and listen with attention. Do something incognito and nice for a person you are close to. Eat simple and natural food. Create time periods for not doing anything – just walk, look around, live the  moment. Have your mind open to a more profound and silent sensitivity. Appreciate each scene and each person as they are.”


No Gasoline zone

-Karthik Gurumurthy

Life is different in every country, and traveling opens your eyes to all living conditions. Traveling puts into perspective your blessings and privileges as well as facing the harsh realities that many people live with.

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Rosenborg Castle

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Rosenborg was built as a pleasure palace by Christian IV at the beginning of the 17th century, and quickly became the king's favorite castle. Christian IV left a deep impression on Danish history through his colorful personality, building projects and waging of war.

Christian IV ruled the counry together with the Privy council, but absolutism was introduced with his son Frederik III in 1660. Many of the furnishings in the castle reflect the pomp of the absolute monarchy. 

From the 1700s Rosenborg was no longer used as a residence, but became the place where the kings placed their oldest. finest and rarest objects. Here the king's guests could see the wealth  and status of the Danish-Norwegian kingdom in Europe. Rosenborg opened to the public as a museum in 1838. This displays the king's lavish collection of valuables, often acquired as  gifts from foreign rulers.


Why Travel?

-Karthik Gurumurthy

Traveling forces you to break out of your daily routine and all that you are familiar with. It might be uncomfortable, scary even; however, the rewards are worth it. The knowledge and experience you gain will outweigh any self-doubt and worry you had before you began traveling.

Travel also forces you to self-reflect and understand yourself as a person. As a result, you will be more prone to being open and comfortable expressing yourself without worrying about others’ approval.

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Round Tower-Copenhagen

-Karthik Gurumurthy

Disvoveries have been made in the Round Tower. Institutions have started here. Important historical figures have come here. And people from all walks of life have passed each other in search of Copenhagen's most charming  view 34.8 metres above the street. The whole world is passing through the Round Tower and has done so since 1642, when the tower was finished. For centuries , the views of the city's roofs and sights from the top of the Round Tower have been Copenhagen's major attractions.

With its distinctive Spiral Ramp, the Round Tower is one of Denmark's best-known and most visited structures. It was built as a platform  for the university observatory and for centuries it was the centre of Danish Astronomy.  The foundation stone was laid on July 7, 1637 (344 years later MS, Dhoni was born which is a different story altogether). Five years later the Round Tower was finished as the first part of the Trinity complex, which was designed to accommodate three things : the observatory at the top of the tower, the University library above the Trinity church and the church itself  below.

The Round Tower is built by King Christian IV, who constructed its round walls in the royal colors yellow and red. The king himself also sketched the famous golden rebus on the front of the tower: Lead , God, the right teachings and justice into the heart of King Christian IV.

Halfway up the tower you will find the library Hall since its reopening in 1987. The platform on top of the tower has a great 360 degree city view  centred by the Observatory, which is still used in the winter months and thus the oldest functioning observatory in Europe.

The Spiral ramp twists 7 1/2 times around the tower's hollow core and is the only way to the top. It is inspired by both German Renaissance castles and ancient structures and is unique in a Danish context. 

The Round Tower planetarium shows the solar system with the sun in the centre. The observatory telescope dates from 1929 when the current observatory building was opened 


Break free of your limitations

-Karthik Gurumurthy

You know the story about the elephant whose one leg used to be tied using a small rope since the time he was young and he used to experience a lack of freedom in moving around wherever he wished. At that age, the small rope was enough to tie the elephant. As the elephant grew bigger, he possessed the physical strength to break the rope and wander around freely but instead of making use of his strength to break the rope, he did not do so. He remained confined to the same small region where he used to be tied because his mind was conditioned that he cannot break the rope, which is an example of a mental limitation.

In a similar manner, the inner region of our mind is the place where we as children got used to being tied with the different types of ropes of a lack of optimism or positivity. E.g. I cannot do well or I am not good enough or I am not as successful as others or I am low on self-confidence or I am an under-achiever. These ropes in many people are so strong that a time comes when situations of success have arrived in their life in different forms as they have grown up and they have achieved reasonably in different spheres of life. At that time they can easily break these different ropes, but they still remain low on optimism.


Giving

-Karthik Gurumurthy

Life is short. How do we meet the challenge of finding both joy and impact in the time and place we actually live in?

Each of us must learn for ourselves what we have to give and how to give it well. Our work is to give with the best of our abilities, the fullest of our love to create a lasting impact. Several years ago, I chose teaching is my way of giving it back to the society.


Bring your ideal self..into reality

-Karthik Gurumurthy

Spend time every day imagining your ideal self. Picture what you would look like, how you'd speak and your tone towards those that can do nothing for you. Think about how you'd act in uncomfortable situations, how you'd push through difficult scenarios or how you'd come up from being underwater. Picture what your wardrobe consists of, the environment you'd live in, and the places you'd explore. Visualize the memories you'd like to create with your closest friends and the success of the business your child you once dreamt of.  Envision how you'd act, think, believe, laugh, smile, move and speak. Visualize your ideal self and now, do everything in your power to become that person. Because if you were able to imagine and feel them- then they exist.

But it is only up to YOU and your power to become it. It is only up to you to match the energy that lays dormant within you and that ALIGNS with the world you envision living in.

 


Gratitude

-Karthik Gurumurthy

Do not spend time on people who aren't grateful. Those are the ones who take blessings for granted and live a life that lacks empathy. Your time once spent won't be gained back even by spending millions. So make sure you spend it wisely on those who respect your efforts and are grateful for the support they gained. As well, build this quality in your own life. Be grateful. Every interaction matters. Do not waste your energy and time on people who don't deserve it.

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Feeling the vibes

-Karthik Gurumurthy

“People’s vibrations reveal who they truly are. Each person carries their vibrations, and we can feel them by paying a little attention. When we silence our mind and turn away attention from visible parameters, we sense invisible energies, their vibes. It helps us understand the other person’s nature and intentions. The next time you meet someone, feel their vibes. Words or behaviors may be deceptive but vibrations cannot lie. “


Faultfinding

-Karthik Gurumurthy

"Great minds discuss ideas. Average minds discuss events. Small minds discuss people.”

To be specific, these small minds are fault-finders, which according to the Webster dictionary, are people who habitually find fault, complain, or object, especially in a petty way.

As a part of human nature we subconsciously search for faults in other people to feel better about ourselves, or just because their faults are annoying to us.

Put simply, fault-finders are people who obsessively find fault in others and criticize. They often complain and harshly judge others based on trivial issues. Fault-finders are constantly telling others what they are doing wrong and or what they should be doing. They rarely, if ever, let a fault slip by, regardless of how insignificant.

Once, A famous painter had thousands of fans who would never get tired of praising his work.
One day, he thought "Do people praise only in front of me & talk about mistakes behind my back?"
The next day, he put up his painting at a busy intersection of the city & wrote a note "If you find a mistake in my painting, please put a mark in that place."

In the evening, when he went to the square, there were hundreds of marks on his painting. Seeing this, he got very disappointed & stopped painting thereafter.

When one of the painter's friends heard this, he said, "Let's put a painting made by you at that intersection again but this time with a different note."

The next day, a new painting was put at the intersection. Now the note read, "If you find a mistake in my painting, please correct it."

In the evening when the painter went to check the painting, it was still the same & there were no corrections made.

His friend said, "Anyone can find mistakes but there are very few who help to correct those mistakes. There is no point in unnecessarily taking opinions of people who only find fault without suggesting improvements."

My guiding thought about fault finding has always been a quote from Marcus Aurelius,
" Whenever you are about to find fault with someone, ask yourself the following question : What fault of mine most nearly resembles the one I am about to criticize?"

Let's stop finding faults and make a serious attempt towards becoming an example of one who focuses less on the bad, and more on the good & stay blessed forever.


Being nice

-Karthik Gurumurthy

“Each of us has grown up with values, and taught to be kind to everyone around us. But we often exhibit a behavior of dependency – we are nice to people only when they are nice to us. If they behave wrongly with us in small or big ways, we feel an impulse to strike back in the name of tit for tat or an eye for an eye. We copy people’s wrong behaviors and give up our inherent goodness.

People behave with us differently on different days, depending on their mood, nature, circumstance, perspective or environment. They may argue, betray, scold or ignore me. There is always a chance of them being rude or disrespectful. We have three options:

1/To reflect their behavior and deplete our virtues,

2/To absorb their behavior and go into pain, and

3/To transform their energy by radiating our inherent goodness. If we keep copying people’s behaviors, we lose our own identity and virtues. It’s their life, their energy, their karma and their destiny. We need not respond the same way as they behave. We have the power to be nice to everyone, including with those who are not right to us.

Understand people and don’t hurt them back. Let them be their way, you be yours. Let your behavior be a reflection of your personality. Don’t copy their behaviors and don’t reflect their personality.”


1:1 Conversations

-Karthik Gurumurthy

Whenever we meet friends or family, we make it a point to meet one family at a time. We try our best not to meet many families at the same time.Sometimes due to time constraints we might have done it but we try not to do that anymore. We seldom invite anyone for the sake of meeting them but we always wanted to give them undivided attention.

There’s nothing quite like it to unburden yourself. To know that you are being listened to. To feel that you are special. Many a memory is made up of meaningful conversations with significant others.Everyone has a special story to tell and I have learned a lot from the 1:1 conversations as opposed to having many extroverts completely take over the conversation and you never get to hear from the quieter people who wanted to share a useful nugget or a funny situation.

It is at these times that we learn to still ourselves to listen to the other. To give him/ her the gift of our undivided attention. It is when we learn how our lives can make a difference to other lives.

If we pay more attention to others, someday, in the future, someone will tell us how our attention and words made a difference.

 


Greatness, Competitiveness and Friendship

-Karthik Gurumurthy

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I love this picture not just they are tennis fiercest rivals of all time. To see your greatest rival cry tears of sadness is the ultimate respect. There will never be another rivalry like this duo.Two men demonstrating the strength to be authentic. To be truly as you are, where you are. It's so obvious what this moment means to these two. Their powerful emotions clearly, courageously on display for all to see. How often do we hold ourselves back from being our authentic selves because we feel "it's not allowed." When was the last time you felt strong enough to be authentic?  It disrupts and destroys all myths about masculinity, competition and vulnerability.Being vulnerable in front of others always shows one's inner strength and character. 

Men are expected not to cry.
Men are expected to be tough.
Men are expected to destroy the competition.

Nothing about the raw emotion of Roger Federer and Rafael Nadal follows any of those outdated, damaging and dangerous rules of toxic masculinity.

They are openly crying.
They are holding hands.
They are competitors on the court and compassionate comrades who respect and revere one another.

Possessing both masculine and feminine traits is the sign of an evolved person. This really warms my heart.

And I hope that we are continuing to move towards a world that evolves beyond the gender binary "masculine" and "feminine"; one that isn't so desperately set on putting people into boxes and telling them that who they are, what they feel, who they love and how they live is "wrong" or "right" based on how the world has gendered them.

Until then, I implore more and more leaders to show up fully in all of their *human* traits — regardless of gender — so we can embrace, learn from and love them wholly.  Bow and respect to both Federer and Nadal..


Taking care of parents/elders

-Karthik Gurumurthy

For those who have aged parents or in-laws at home. Beware that how you treat them sets a direct and powerful example to your children on how to treat you when you are old and weak!! It is sad to see people choose convenience than doing what is right. It is definitely a shame when I see folks giving excuses and avoiding to take responsibility. Fast forward few years later, your son or daughter will do the same like it or not. It is going to happen.  


Embrace change

-Karthik Gurumurthy

It’s not every day when one feels hopeful or excited about life, right? Hope—that elusive magical thing might suddenly go amiss.

Some days, the cup we are drinking from, may be empty. With not an ounce of hope to look forward to, we may feel despondent and lost. That’s when we must channelize our inner strength, and force every tissue, nerve and sinew within our being, to lead us on—to show up, and be ready to face whatever comes our way, irrespective of whether we feel brave or not.
These days, I’m focusing on learning to ‘generate’ hope, (mostly out of nothing!) and I do it by connecting to the Universe on a daily basis. My meditations and the affirmations greatly help and so do the workouts. Some days, it is the walking that does it. This is one connection that has now come to be my lifeline, one that I keenly look forward to every day, but more so, on the days, when the challenges feel insurmountable and I feel like hiding into my shell and never come out to face the big bad world.

If there’s been one lesson that life is teaching me these days, it is learning to be more patient—way more than I ever thought I could be. I’m learning that not all problems in life can be resolved the way we’d like them to be, and even if it is rather difficult to accept, I’m learning to be more accepting of this reality. I must say that I’m getting there, slowly.

Often, things do not seem to change even for days or months, but here, again, I’m learning to look beyond the immediate circumstances and patiently wait. Pray and wait. And hope for things to pass and better days to come.

How does one do that?

The one silver lining in life that brings me solace is that nothing stays the same. Nothing at all. Neither the good times, not the bad times. There’s such great comfort in this thought, when you’re going through difficult times. This fact alone makes the pain points more bearable. It instills hope, when all is lost. When the past is gone and the future is doubtful, being mindful of the moment really truly helps.

In learning to be mindful, one also learns to savor every little good and blessing that comes our way, the little nameless moments of joy, however fleeting and short. One is filled with gratitude because one realises that nothing can be taken for granted any more. One learns to live in the moment alone. And more importantly, one learns to let go of things that do not matter—things that do not speak to one’s heart and soul anymore.

As I continue to grapple with the slings and arrows that come my way, I often wonder what life would have been like, if things were a little easy for me.

For one, there could have been an infinite number of possibilities that could have happened in life. But, would that have made me the person that I am today? I think not.

At the end of the day, though, what really matters to me is that, the person I see in the mirror every morning, the one who stares back at me, a tad bit sleepy, tired, worn out and still managing to smile, is STILL standing there—resilient, hopeful and ready for combat, no matter what lies ahead.

Maya Angelou’s wise words ring true, now more than ever before:

I can be changed by what happens to me, but I refuse to be reduced by it.

 


Leadership Culture

-Karthik Gurumurthy

In my twenty plus work experience, I have had the opportunity to work with amazing organizations and great leaders. What I have observed with the top leaders is they focus primarily on the growth and well being of the team and the communities to which they belong.  They always put the needs of others first and help their people develop and perform at a very high level. 

I have also witnessed  so called  average positional leaders sharing lofty big dreams but doesn't necessarily back it up with the action/ strategy to make that happen. To develop leaders, one needs to start from the ground-up.  What separates average companies from the great ones is their ability to build a leadership culture through out their organization that cultivates great leaders.

"a true leader is not the one with the most followers but the one who creates the most leaders."

-Neale Donald Walsch

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Earned life

-Karthik Gurumurthy

Marshall Goldsmith provides a powerful guide for anyone seeking a higher purpose in their personal and professional life.

Goldsmith draws on his experience as a world-renowned executive coach to provide practical advice and exercises aimed at helping readers live a life aligned with their overarching purpose, regardless of the eventual outcome.

Taking inspiration from Buddhism, Goldsmith reveals that the key to living an earned life, unbound by regret, requires committing to a habit of earning and connecting that habit to something greater than the isolated achievements of careerism.

With illuminating stories from Goldsmith's legendary career,  this book provides a roadmap for ambitious people seeking to close the gap between what they plan to achieve and what they actually get done, and to avoid the trap of existential regret that reroutes destinies and persecutes memories.


Job market trends

-Karthik Gurumurthy

Current generation job market is better than what it used to be a decade ago.

If you are ready to learn and present yourself truly, you will get a job. No one questions your gap, or relevant experience. All people see is the attitude towards work and people. Most companies evaluate people at mindset level than skill set.

Upskill, build network, truly learn and stay humble. You will end up being relevant your whole life.

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Reading

-Karthik Gurumurthy

Don’t set your goal of reading a specific number of books per year and keep Mortimer J. Adler’s words in mind: “In the case of good books, the point is not to see how many of them you can get through, but rather how many can get through to you.”  I set aside some time to reflecting what I read and see how I can apply it to upgrade myself.


Notes to Myself Part 9

-Karthik Gurumurthy

"You are the only one that can do what only you were meant to do to be a change for good in the world so go out there and shine your light and do it! Don’t let the norm stand in the way of making a difference, dream big (because you can do anything you set your mind to) and accomplish much with your unique gifts."


Notes to Myself Part 8

-Karthik Gurumurthy

"Try not to worry much. Whatever is happening is happening for a reason & it will teach you something. Trust your instincts, believe in your values & keep going. It's all building you up. And you can take it. Fall down but keep getting up.

No one is permanent in life. But everyone has a role to play. People come, teach you something & leave when they are meant to. Treat them well to your capacity & be honest. Don't bear any hard feelings.

Learn, gain experience, share, be generous but don't buildup a bad attitude. Use your ego wisely.

Try to stay in touch with your friends. They are true gems.

Life is a marathon, don't look at it like a sprint.

Stay happy, nothing is more important."

--your older self with greying hair 😊


Notes to Myself Part 6

-Karthik Gurumurthy

"It’s better to work in a positive work environment that is inclusive and psychologically safe than to work on really cool stuff in a hostile environment…It’s more about who you work with than what you work on. Culture is everything. You’re the kind of person who can identify interesting opportunities that are good for the bottom line anywhere you are. So, don’t waste your energy and time in toxic environments, but instead find creative, inclusive, collaborative company/department cultures. The sky is the limit when you’re in the right place working with the right people!"


Book reading: Reflections

-Karthik Gurumurthy

I love reading books but sometimes I get too carried away and I buy way  too many at the same time when I go to India or at the Friends of the Library shop.

I am realizing it is better to buy one book, complete reading it and then buy the next book.  When I buy books in bulk, I end up reading none. It gives a great sense of satisfaction and security if we hold a large amount of resource. The thought behind that being, "It is mine, I can refer it anytime." Actually the resource that is not utilized is not a resource. If unutilized,  it is just bunch of papers. I am realizing I need to make best use of resource, one by one. Read, Grow, Repeat...


Decisions

-Karthik Gurumurthy

Five men got lost in a vast forest. They tried to find their way out.

The first man said, “I will follow my intuition and go left.”

The second man said, “I will go right. I have a strong feeling about this.”

The third man said, “I think I will walk back the same path we came. This should be the safest option.”

The fourth man said: “I think we are on the right track already, so I will keep going straight. I am sure this forest will end and I will find a village or a farm to ask for directions.”

The fifth man said, “I don’t know what to do. I think I will climb up this tall tree and take a better look around before I make up my mind.”

So the fifth man did that. While he was climbing, the other four men scattered towards their own directions. The fifth man now could see from above what was the shortest way to a village. He thought that the others should not have chosen the paths they did. He was wrong, though.

Each man chose his own path and gained a different experience. The man who went left, found a long path but in the end, it led him to the town.

The man who went right, had to fight a pack of wolves, but this way he learned how to survive in the forest.

The man who went back, met another team of hikers and he made new friends.

The man who went straight, found indeed a farm and was hosted by the family for a couple of days before leaving for the village.

Everyone was enriched in their own unique way by the journey.

Some reflections on this story...

  • What if, there are no "right" or "wrong" decisions?
  • Could it be that every decision offers us new experiences, which in turn offers us innumerable further opportunities for growth?
  • It has taken every decision of our life to bring us to where we are right now. In the fullness of the present, are we really in the wrong place? Even if it feels so, can we be sure?
  • What if there are no mistakes, only opportunities?

Happy Birthday, R-Ashwin

-Karthik Gurumurthy

During the lockdown, one of my favorite things to check out is Ashwin's channel.  I love the way he shines the light on other people and asks very interesting questions. Today is Ashwin's Birthday.  Wishing Ravichandran Ashwin a phenomenal Birthday. May all his dreams and goals come true. This is a poem to our pride of India/Tamilnadu/Chennai.

The fingers twist, the wrist it flicks,
A web he weaves, on pitches slick.
Ashwin, the artist, spins his tale,
With guile and magic, wickets fall.

The carrom ball, a devil's flight,
Dip and turn, defying sight.
The doosra darts, a serpent's hiss,
Bamboozling batsmen, caught in this.

He weaves his spells, both slow and tight,
Catches dance in fading light.
Appeals ring out, a finger raised,
Umpire's nod, the batsman dazed.

From Chennai streets, his rise began,
A prodigy, with cunning plan.
Test arenas his battleground,
Where giants fall, his name resounds.

Not just with spin, his bat speaks too,
Crucial runs, when skies turn blue.
A leader wise, his voice is heard,
Tactics shared, each victory stirred.

Some may scoff, some sing his praise,
But none deny, his skill amazes.
So raise a glass, to Ashwin's art,
The maestro's magic, steals the heart.

-Copyright reserved 2020


Quarantine From Reality (QFR)-Thank you Subhasree Thanikachalam

-Karthik Gurumurthy

As we are going through the lockdown, one of the things that is keeping the sanity during this crazy time is listening to QFR series done by the great Subhasree Thanikachalam and her wonderful team.  While we as listeners have had the privilege of enjoying the fruits of the  finished product , I  found it overwhelming to wrap my brain around the inordinate amount of time Subhasree must have devoted and continue to do so in presenting the un-heard or forgotten songs from the bygone era which have been washed away by the tides of time. I have been intrigued by the process by which Subhasree go about it, right from song selection, trivia, appropriate singers for the song selected , coordinating the accompanying instrumental music by various musicians , editing etc & that too all done remotely. Subhasree has given a new lease and life to some of the un-heard songs by unearthing them from the deep past & elevating them to a status that even the original people composers, lyricists & singers would not have envisioned . To a large extent she has single handedly helped all the music lovers cope with the lockdown through your phenomenal unimaginable work. May God bestow  Subhasree and her amazing team  lot of energy to continue to produce outstanding work.

 


How I Built This by Guy Raz

-Karthik Gurumurthy

I have been listening to the most amazing Podcast,  "How I Built this ". Guy Raz does the most phenomenal job interviewing some of the most successful entrepreneurs of recent times. Guy has a real talent for interviewing entrepreneurs and engaging his listeners, which is what make this intriguing.  The selection of stories are from some of the best and most entertaining episodes, from Away bags and AirBnB (and their Obama Os) to FUBU and Allbirds. This isn't a bunch of "overcoming all adversity and winning" tales. It's honest, true stories about the work, the practice, and the insights that sparked many of our most loved innovations. I can't get enough of it!!!


How to deal with new kind of situations?

-Karthik Gurumurthy

We have heard of the word 'pandemic' but never knew the impact of what it could do a society as a whole. Most of us have not encountered this new situation. How can we survie in the unknown long enough to do amazing things, tell inspiring stories, and craft lives of deep meaning and impact? 

We need to train ourselves to find grace in the space. To cultivate the ease needed to first survive and then thrive as you move through the abyss and into the extraordinary, we need to be mindful, and should be on the movement. We should be having a quest to befriend uncertainty. The doubts that fill the space of uncertainty can paralyze or even make you ill. Mindfulness teaches you to to zoom the lens out so you're able to more easily identify when you are spinning doom and gloom and when We need to know how to let go. This is a good mindset to practice. The process of dropping the stories that shut you down and coming to back to the space of possibility becomes the default setting.  Once you get there, it is much easier to maneuver around comfortably.

What else can we do? Walk. The angst and anxiety that often accompany action in the face of uncertainty can be greatly diminished by walking. Walking eases your mind. 

The other thing that happens in our mind when we enter a place of uncertainty, we tend to start spinning stories that predict failure endlessly in our heads. We need a way to hit pause button in our head,and reconsider a different story. That story should fuel a possibility than a defeat.

It is up to us to envision the story of a success as vividly as we have spun the story of failure.


Embrace the uncertainty

-Karthik Gurumurthy

If I look back, I always chose a path different from the people around me. Right after high school, everybody around me went for medicine or engineering. I was interested in learning and pursuing a career involving Chemistry.  Most of the times, I try to choose a path which is mostly uncertain. Most of my friends and family always put their kids in the best public or private school. My wife and I chose to experiment our kid with homeschool. 

One thing I noticed over the years is every breakthrough is preceded by great uncertainty.  The only way to avoid uncertainty, to come close to guaranteed success in an endeavor,  is if you have done it before, or someone else has. At that point, why bother? You are no longer creating, you are replicating, checking off yet another largely inevitable outcome. It may be easier. It may carry less angst. But it will also matter far les to you and to those you seek to serve.

Life's greatest moments live in the space between desire and attainment. It's not the getting that makes life good, it is the seeking, even when that seeking demands not just action but surrender. The moment your object of desire becomes a foregone conclusion, the quest loses its potential to change you. Your life becomes a series of reruns and that gets old fast. 

Yes, I agree that Uncertainty may bring unease, but it also brings  a vital energy, the exhilaration of creation. Without uncertainty, there is no possibility. 

There is no perfect moment. No time when you will know enough to guarantee you wull get what you want. Still, at some point, imperfectly informed, with butterflies in your belly, you'll still need to act. Experience and emotion dance in that space. It is where possibility finds it wings. The greatest creations, the most legendary relationships, the most treasured and heralded experiences, innovations, and lives have all come from people who were willing to live and act in the face of uncertainty long enough for greatness to emerge. 


Rest in Peace, VB Uncle

-Karthik Gurumurthy

Former India and Tamil Nadu opener, VB Chandrasekhar, died a few minutes ago. He was 57. He had represented India in seven ODIs. Chandrasekhar was a tearaway batsman who once scored a century off 56 balls in in the Irani Trophy, an Indian record in the First-Class cricket then. 92 of his eventual knock of 119 (78 balls) came in 19 scoring strokes - 11 fours and eight sixes.He later coached Tamil Nadu, was a state and national selector and was also a commentator.
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He was director of Chennai Super Kings and was instrumental in getting MS Dhoni to CSK. He owned the VB Thiruvallur Veerans team which plays in the Tamil Nadu Premier League (TN Premier League). He ran a coaching academy in Chennai.
 
A deeply religious man, he used to be seen with 'vibhuti' on his forehead even while he was in a smart suit. 
 
He was very attached to my dad and always used to chat about upcoming new talents from TN/India.We remained in touch on WhatsApp/FB. He was very proud of his two girls who are excellent Carnatic singers.  I briefly met him last year for coffee. Never in my wildest nightmare I thought that was the last time I would meet him.
 
Om Shanti 🙏

Self Awareness

-Karthik Gurumurthy

I am currently going through a course with Harvard Business School where Amex has teamed up with HBS for Band-35 and up leaders. It is a very useful and helpful course which I am thoroughly enjoying and am thankful for the senior management to enrol me in this special class. For today's reading, I was going through an article in HBR written by Tasha Eurich.

This is the summary of today's reading: 

One of the biggest aspects of emotional intelligence is self-awareness.Being self-aware means being in tune with your emotions, feelings, state of mind, motives, and desires.

Clearly, there’s a disconnect between how aware we think we are of our emotions and the truth.

Dr. Eurich says there are two types of self-awareness: internal and external.

Internal self-awareness is how we see our own values, thoughts, and emotions. To practice this, move away from asking what. Instead of asking “Why did I say that to a team member?”, ask “What made me say that to my team member?” You can’t always rationalize the why, but you can always explain the what.

External self-awareness is how we are seen by others. To practice this, create an open and safe environment where team members and peers can be honest with you. Encourage critical feedback that ultimately helps you improve.

The goal of self-awareness is to balance internal and external self-awareness, or to have how you see yourself be the same as how you are seen by others. True self-awareness requires a balance between these two dimensions. When the two sides match, you can target areas for improvement and change how you interact with yourself and with others. 

 
 
 
 
When we see ourselves clearly we are often more confident and more creative. 

Importance of Sleep

-Karthik Gurumurthy

I used to be proud of sleeping less and used to have the notion that I am very productive. Ten years back, I was working in a business opportunity and used to quote that I sleep and wake up on the same day. Over the years, I realized that it was a wrong thing to do.

When we are sleep deprived, our risk of chronic diseases like hypertension, diabetes, depression, obesity and cancer skyrocket. Sleep loss is associated with a 200 % rise in cancer and 100 % rise in heart disease. It also decreases our memory and ability to think.

When we don't sleep enough, we get fatter. Sleep disruptions drops our metabolism and ramps up food cravings, likely due to the effect on the hormones ghrelin and leptin. Ghrelin tells us to eat, and leptins tells us to stop. When we are sleep deprived, we are all ghrelin and not enough leptin. What does that mean? We will eat pretty much everything that is not glued down, including the stuff in the top cabinet that is hard to reach.

To avoid this problem, it is important to keep a consistent sleeping and waking time, even on the weekends. We need to develop a sleep ritual. Do the same things  at the same time every evening. Rituals can be calming and help draw you away from the stress or high-alert state of your day.  They signal to your body and brain that its time to prepare for sleep. Your mind and body also need time to wind down before bed, so build relaxing activities into your routine. For example, write in a journal for 10 minutes, read a book for 10-20 minutes, listen to calming music, do breathing exercises or meditate. As much as possible, try to make it the exact same action at the same time every day.

 


Curiosity

-Karthik Gurumurthy

The more experiences I have, the more I realize I don't know. The more I realize there's more out there, the more curiosity I have, the more I learn. What I try to do is I do a lot of things that are outside my comfort zone. I say yes to things that will allow me to have a different experience. That's very difficult because you also want to make sure that you're focused, so you have to be very intentional about those experiences. I don't mean intentional that it has to make sense, I mean intentional about that interests me. Curiosity is critical for the process of learning and development. Evidence suggests that learning with curiosity leads us to remember more of what we learn and moreover, to enjoy the learning process more.

What do we mean by curiosity? Philosopher and psychologist William James defined curiosity as the impulse towards better cognition, or in other words, a desire to learn and know more. Contemporary definitions of psychology consider curiosity an internal motivation to seek information. These are semantically different, but the meaning is the same. It's an individual desire, an internal desire to want to go out and find something new. Some might argue that curiosity is a fixed and innate trait. Either have it or you don't. We can all probably think of people that immediately come to mind as curious people and others that don't seem so curious. But what if that is more of a state of being than an intrinsic trait? What if we thought about curiosity as a competency or a skill to be developed? To be fair, most of us have gone through an education system that values the acquisition of knowledge and there's nothing wrong with that, of course. But often curiosity goes against the norm and therefore it's hindered instead of cultivated.

When you were younger, especially in early elementary school, did you ever experience that kid in your class who all of a sudden, out of nowhere asked a question that seemed completely unrelated to whatever was going on in the class at the moment? Chances are that student was told to pipe down or wait until later. Or have you ever been in a meeting where you are close to consensus on some decision with your team and then someone pipes up with a question that no one had yet thought to ask, and then that person gets shut down? These are examples of curiosity at work.

Throughout our lives, most of us get graded and evaluated on what we know, how much we studied, how much we remembered, how we will be able to work through a problem to get to the right answer. Because of this, we grow into knowers. We believe we have the answers and we stopped checking our own assumptions. This makes us feel confident and in control. It helps us to demonstrate to others our values so we can get that promotion or take on that new project. But it also completely gets in the way of our ability to be curious, our ability to learn. Cultivating our curiosity is about shifting from being a knower to a learner. This doesn't mean we don't have any knowledge, it means we are open to constantly updating our assumptions by taking in new information. It makes it more likely that we'll engage in a dialogue in which all voices in a team contribute instead of a debate that turns into an uncomfortable conversation. It means that when we face disappointment, we will explore that experience for what we can take away from it instead of letting it shut us down.

Question is, how do you get into a learner mindset or how do you know you're not in a newer mindset? I think you have to almost catch yourself or if somebody else can catch you with it and say, well, that's a solution that you're thinking about and it's not a problem. So that might be one way to do it is you might just say to yourself, am I thinking in terms of a solution without a problem defined? Or my thinking about a problem and my asking all the right questions to try to find out all the different aspects of this interdependent problem situation that is going on. I think that might be the simplest way of asking yourself, am I a knower or am I a learner? A knower would be like Richard Feynman and his dad versus his friend. Feynman was a theoretical physicist, brilliant guy.

The story goes that they would go out into the forest and see birds and trees and his friend and his father would say to him, that's a cardinal or that's a birch tree or he would explain to him what he was seeing, and of course, his friend would memorize that, he would be a knower of all of those things. Richard's father would say to him, "So why do you think the beacon that bird has that shape?"

I mean, it's a completely different thing. So it opens up a set of questions. I think to that example, I would say that maybe the way you become a learner always start with a set of questions that you don't understand the answer to, and then you ask how can I get answers to my questions? That puts you into a learner mode. Curiosity is powerful.


Vulnerability

-Karthik Gurumurthy


Let's talk a bit about courage and its relevance for leadership growth. Dr Brené Brown, whose work on vulnerability has become widely known, defines vulnerability as uncertainty risk and emotional exposure. Vulnerability is when we are at our most human and it is not a sign of weakness rather our willingness to get into that state of discomfort and emotional exposure is exactly a measure of how brave we are willing to be. Based on her research she argues that vulnerability is our most accurate measure of courage and it is a prerequisite to the behaviors that her research has found are important for what she calls daring leadership, which are rumbling with vulnerability, braving trust, living our values and learning to rise.

Being a leader takes courage, takes courage to let go of the assumption that we as leaders have it all figured out. It takes courage to let an employee or team member take ownership over a project. It takes courage to have a difficult conversation with members of our team. It takes courage to look at ourselves and be willing to say, I'm going to try to grow as a leader even if it's hard. Again it's kind of a sobering responsibility and is it that you're being watched all the time? And the answer is unfortunately yeah, a lot of times we have unrealistic expectations of our leaders. I remember being junior in Allergan and being in a meeting and sitting with the director and I was like, they must know everything. When I was a Director I was like, yeah, I don't really know anything, coz sometimes you don't know anything about the topic and you have to have the humility to ask the questions. But people often will have unrealistic expectations and part of what you can do and part of that is being very human and being willing to be vulnerable sometimes. And that's part of the challenge with that authentic style of leadership and leading because there's some vulnerability but there are ways to protect yourself as well, right? But at the end of the day you were much more fulfilled and you feel much better. And when you put your head down on the pillow at night, you can rest better knowing that you are authentic self and you are bringing your best to your team or whatever situation you're working in as a leader.

As leaders, we are in a prime position to have to deal with uncertainty risk and emotional exposure, meaning we have to get messy with vulnerability. Just think about it, relationships with people who are looking to you to make decisions, to be a role model, to empower them, to do great work and to grow themselves as leaders. Just to name a few of the responsibilities of leaders that require us to be vulnerable, because of all of this, it can be easy to build up a sort of emotional armor. So what does this armor look like?

Defaulting to making a decision without listening to others, avoiding hard conversations, being a no or instead of a learner, blaming others instead of considering our own role in the situation. Being courageous is about getting vulnerable and learning to lower that armor. So how do we practice lowering the armor? How do we develop that sense of courage requires practicing vulnerability? Play with vulnerability, Brené Brown calls this rumbling with vulnerability and I like that to test out what it feels like to acknowledge your vulnerability instead of hiding from it.

Start by acknowledging those places of risk, uncertainty and emotion with people you trust employees, team members supervise or maybe even family members. I have to get vulnerable to be a good leader, get curious, ask yourself? I wonder where vulnerability appears for me, look for opportunities to shift from blame to internalization. Good problem solvers look for the source of a problem and in teams and organizations that often turns into finding someone to blame. This is a great place to practice being vulnerable. It's easy to blame others, it's harder to acknowledge our own role in a problem or sometimes even to forgive when someone has done something wrong. If you find yourself leaning toward blaming someone, turn inward, acknowledge any resistance you are feeling and see if you can figure out why, then consider other elements of the system around you that may be playing in a role in this problem.


Book reading: Here, there and everywhere by Sudha Murty

-Karthik Gurumurthy

  • Education is the key to success: Murty emphasizes the importance of education in breaking the cycle of poverty and achieving success. She shares numerous stories of individuals who transformed their lives through education.
  • Empathy and compassion are essential qualities: Murty stresses the importance of empathy and compassion in understanding and helping others. She encourages readers to develop these qualities to make a positive impact on the world.
  •  Simplicity and humility are true virtues: Murty advocates for living a simple and humble life, unattached to material possessions. She believes that true happiness lies in service to others and a connection with nature.
  • Gratitude is a powerful emotion: Murty encourages readers to cultivate gratitude for the blessings in their lives. She believes that gratitude can transform our perspectives and enhance our happiness.
  • Resilience and perseverance are crucial for overcoming challenges: Murty shares stories of individuals who overcame immense challenges through resilience and perseverance. She inspires readers to face their own obstacles with determination and strength.
  • Family and relationships are our foundation: Murty highlights the importance of family and relationships in our lives. She emphasizes the strength and support that family and friends provide.
  • Giving back to society is a noble pursuit: Murty encourages readers to find ways to give back to their communities and make a positive difference in the world. She believes that giving back brings immense fulfillment.
  • Learning never stops: Murty emphasizes the importance of lifelong learning. She encourages readers to constantly seek knowledge and expand their horizons.
  • Embrace diversity and respect different perspectives: Murty promotes unity and understanding amidst diversity. She encourages readers to respect different perspectives and cultures.
  • Find joy in the simple things: Murty encourages readers to appreciate the simple pleasures in life. She believes that happiness can be found in everyday moments.
  • Never underestimate the power of small acts of kindness: Murty demonstrates how small acts of kindness can have a profound impact on others. She encourages readers to spread kindness and make a difference in the world.
  • Believe in yourself and your dreams: Murty inspires readers to believe in their abilities and pursue their dreams with passion and determination.
  • Face your fears with courage: Murty encourages readers to face their fears head-on and not let them hold them back from achieving their goals.
  • Mistakes are opportunities for learning: Murty views mistakes as learning opportunities rather than failures. She encourages readers to embrace mistakes and grow from them.
  • Make a difference in the world: Murty leaves a message of hope and empowerment. She encourages readers to use their talents and skills to make a positive impact on the world.